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Antisocial men can be perfectly generous, thoughtful and sweet boyfriends but, they can be a bit of a nightmare to, well, socialize with! In your house they’re adorable; at a friend’s house, they’re abhorrible (well, nearly). If you’re a social butterfly determined to be with an antisocial man, there are some things you’ll need to get used to.
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You’ll find out about his parties
You’ll run into his coworker who will ask you if you’re coming to the company holiday party. Your partner didn’t even mention it was happening.
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He’ll forget to introduce you
He’ll forget to introduce you to people in a social setting. It’s not personal—he just wants out of the interaction asap.
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He’ll forget to introduce himself
He sees it as a blessing if you forget to introduce him in social circles (it means he can hang back quiet), so he’s certainly not going to introduce himself.
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People might think he is rude
You’ll have to explain to people a lot that he doesn’t dislike them—that it’s nothing personal—he’s just “not that social.”
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He won’t break the silence
You’ll be astounded by the lengths of silences he’ll sit through. You can sit in silence on a double date for 15 minutes, and your guy won’t even notice.
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When he socializes, it’s a gift
You can stop trying to make him “have a good time” or “look like he’s enjoying himself.” He’s not having a good time. He’s not enjoying himself. But he came out because he knew it mattered to you—that will have to be enough.
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His friends are activity buddies
When his friends come over, they’ll probably watch sports or play video games or partake in some hobby. His hangouts will be hobby-based and not conversation based.
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He’ll be confused by enthusiasm
When people he met just once shriek his name and run over to greet him, he’ll look confused.
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He’ll always want to leave early
You’ll have to stand your ground on staying because he will always look for a way out.
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He’ll ask, “What’s the occasion?”
If you say friends want to have you two over, he’ll ask, “What’s the occasion.” Socializing isn’t enough of an occasion for him.
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He’ll do social things, alone
You’ll be surprised that sometimes he goes to a concert or a movie by himself. It’s not personal: he just doesn’t need the company to enjoy the activity.
He’s probably not a hugger
He’ll hug you (hopefully), but he’ll tense up when coworkers or friends hug him. You’ll have to explain to them that that’s not personal, either.
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He won’t suggest activities
You can rack his brain for hours, trying to figure out what activity sounds good to him. You’re not going to get an answer: leaving the house does not sound good to him.
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He’ll look at the clock a lot
You’ll catch him looking at the clock a lot, wondering when you two get to go home. You’ll have to ween him off of that bad habit.
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He’ll be quiet in cabs
If it’s important to you to make conversation with your cab driver, just know your partner isn’t going to partake. This is his chance to be quiet—he spoke all night to people at the party.
