Why Relationships Are Hard After Years Of Being Single

Nobody is complaining here. Being in a loving relationship comes with far more pros than cons. But, I’d be lying if I didn’t say that, after you’ve been single for a while and you get into a new relationship, there are a few adjustments that can be a shock to the system. Here’s why relationships are hard when you’ve been single for quite some time.

Dinner when you’re single

When you’re single, you eat whatever you want, whenever you want it (diet allowing). If you’re driving home from work and find yourself craving a cheeseburger, you pull over and buy one.

Dinner in a relationship

When you’re in a relationship, you feel rude doing your own thing for dinner. You call your partner and ask what he wants. He wants something totally different from what you want. You have three options: You both eat what he wants, and you’re unhappy, you both eat what you want, and he’s unhappy, or you pick up some “compromise” food and neither of you gets the meal you initially wanted. But hey, sometimes you get lucky and crave the same thing.

Sleep when you’re single

When you’re single, the only things that dictate your sleep habits are your discipline (knowing when to put down the phone, cut off the TV and go to bed), and maybe how much noise your neighbors make. If you don’t need to get up until 9 a.m., you probably won’t get up until 9 a.m.

Sleep in a relationship

In a relationship, you stay awake until your partner is ready to go to sleep. You wake up every time he needs to pee, snores, wants more blanket or talks in his sleep. You wake up when his alarm goes off, and again when yours goes off.

Friends of the opposite sex when you’re single

When you’re single, and a fellow single friend of the opposite sex asks you to dinner, you just go.

Friends of the opposite sex, in a relationship

When you’re in a relationship and a friend of the opposite sex invites you to dinner, you suddenly feel obligated to run it by your partner. You’re not exactly asking for permission, but you would feel bad mentioning the dinner only after the fact.

Vacations when you’re single

When you’re single, and your friends want to do an impromptu trip to Hawaii, you check your bank account for the funds, and you go!

Vacations in a relationship

When you’re in a relationship, unless you’re rolling in the dough, you can’t just pick up and go to Hawaii with your friends. You need to see if your partner also wanted to go on a trip in the near future and see if you can afford to do both. If you can’t, you have to choose the trip with your partner.

Not sleeping at home when you’re single

When you’re single, if your night gets a little wild and you need to crash on a friend’s couch, you just do it.

Not sleeping at home in a relationship

Even if you don’t live with your partner, you still feel obligated to tell them in advance when you’re not going to be home. If your partner stops by and finds you’re not home, but you didn’t say you were sleeping elsewhere, you’re afraid he’ll suspect that you’re cheating.

Talking about sex when you’re single

When you’re single, you don’t mind telling your friends every detail of every sexcapade.

Talking about sex in a relationship

When you’re having sex with the same person, and your friends meet that person, you suddenly feel like it’s not a good idea to tell them about how you and your man get down.

Socializing when you’re single

When you’re single, if friends invite you to do something on Saturday and Sunday, you go. So long as your schedule is clear, you don’t see why not.

Friends when you’re single

When you’re single, you choose your friends. If you don’t like someone, you don’t hang out with him.

Friends in a relationship

When you’re in a relationship, your partner’s friends become your friends. You end up spending some of your precious and rare free time with humans you don’t like.