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Moms are worriers. That’s just what they do. When you meet your man’s mom for the first time, she probably makes a lot of that first impression. Obviously, you can always redeem yourself later. But you’ll make things easier on everyone if you’re aware of these eight things your boyfriend’s mom notices about you right away.

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How you’re dressed

Did you go for the conservative look? Do you have on your cardigan and flats today, and one of those little flowy blouses with the ruffles in front? Did you say, “Screw it? I like looking hot around my man” and stick to that tank top with the side boob?

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What she thinks

Moms can usually see right through you if you dress like you’re going to church. They know they’re son—they’ve seen his flings over the years. They’re not buying it. You should, however, make some effort to put your tits away. She’ll appreciate that. But keep your own style.

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What she thinks

If she judges that you have those things, there is little you can do about that. Hopefully, she is cooler than that. But even a laid back mother might judge it if you made zero effort to cover those up. In other words, don’t wear a crop top if you have a belly ring. Don’t wear an off the shoulder top just to show off your shoulder tattoo.

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What she thinks

If you’re going to her home, definitely bring something. If you don’t, she might frown upon that. If you’re meeting her out somewhere, she won’t notice if you don’t bring a gift. But she’ll be blown away if you do! So, do! Keep it simple, though. If you overdo it, she’ll feel like you’re trying to buy her approval.

 

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What she thinks

If you’d usually be all over your man in public, well, maybe tone that down for his mom. But you don’t need to act like he’s just your friend. Don’t worry about making his mom uncomfortable—she wants to see that her son is loved. Give him some affection!

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What she thinks

Go for the hug! She’ll only see that as a good thing. Even if she isn’t a “hugger,” she won’t be offended that you went for it. She’ll find it endearing you already feel so close to her. If you go for the handshake, she might think you’re nervous.

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What she thinks

Mamas are wise enough to know that a woman who is unhappy in her career struggles to be happy in her relationship. She at least wants to know you’re pursuing something that makes you happy. She’d rather you were an intern at your dream company than making good money in a place that makes your eyes look dead inside.

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What she thinks

His mom wants to see that you have a good relationship with your family. She doesn’t want to imagine her son at your Thanksgiving dinners, filled with yelling and evil looks and drunken arguments. She wants to see that you sound loving and happy when you talk about your family.

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What she thinks

If she’s going to potentially spend holidays for the rest of her life with you, she needs to feel relaxed around you. She can’t feel like you’re always nervously looking to fill the silence. She also wants to see that you assert yourself in conversations that are already happening, though this tells her you don’t take a backseat in the relationship.