Randy Ritchwood: What Men Really Think About Sex

Sex, sex, and more sweaty sex….Let’s goooo!!!!

Who doesn’t want to talk about getting it popping in the bedroom or the kitchen for that matter, especially if you are in your sexual prime? When does that exactly happen moms – during the late 30’s or early 40’s? If you have that inner freak in you, it’s virtually impossible to get enough of the topic, especially if you haven’t tumbled in those freaky sheets in a while. (For moms who just had a baby, we feel for you – who has the energy?) However, for seasoned moms, sex is a sport that many run to. For hours, you chit-chat with your mommy friends about new erotic sex toys on the market, risque porn videos, and the best positions to get your partner open (missionary or the straddle anyone?)

If you are a newly single mom, it may be hard to tame the sexual urges when you meet a handsome man who is interested in you physically. There are so many fears that hover. Will you perform up to par in the bedroom? Are you flexible to do the wild positions that he demands. (Pssttt…Try yoga) What expectations will he have—does he want you to try oral and anal in the same session? Like men, women want to blow a man’s mind when she hops on it. So there are many questions.  If you are a mom back on the dating scene who recently has had multiple partners, the dread lingers – are you moving too fast and are giving up the goodies too quick? If you are married, you are probably wondering – is your partner bored by your regular sexual rotation? I’m sure from time-to-time you even wonder if your spouse is still attracted to you.  On a quest to find out these answers, Mommynoire reached out to an authority on relationships, former reality star of ‘I Love New York’ and the 2005 winner of Oxygen’s show ‘Mr. Romance,’ Mr. Randy ‘Wood’ Ritchwood, to see what men really think about sex in relationships.

Grown Folk Talk With Randy Ritchwood: What Do Men Really Think About Sex

Let’s be honest, sex is a major driving force in relationships, especially in the beginning for men. It’s not really all about being in love. Truly, it’s about the excitement of connecting a man’s penis to a woman’s vagina. Most men just have an aggressive sex drive and love to feel the gushy insides of a woman, any chance they get. There is nothing like two warm bodies in sync with each other. Especially, after a hard day on the job. You can’t understand what is racing through a man’s untamed mind while he is racing home. He’s often thinking porn star action with his mate – if they are up to it. This doesn’t mean a man has to have a roster of women to get that feeling. He may be totally satisfied with his girlfriend, wife, or mother of his children. Nonetheless, he wants to feel the warmth of her juices and for sure he wants to climax just as intense as she does.

Simply, when two people (and sometimes more) are in the company of each other, they are trying to figure out what’s the sex game going to be like, especially if they’ve never been intimate. They want to understand what is making their penis rise or vagina wet. Again, it’s natural. Usually, arousal starts during an intense kissing moment. That’s when the chemistry takes off something crazy. In his mind, he’s envisioning his partner naked while tonguing her down. He’s hoping that she’s ready for whatever, however.

The interesting thing about sex and relationships is the importance of building a friendship. If there is a friendship layer, sex can be nothing short of amazing. But usually when all of those ingredients are together, you are really moving into another territory. Again, if you are just starting to date someone, the combination may release feelings that probably weren’t there during the upstart of your union. Now jealously enters. Ladies, when men start to develop feelings – they aren’t trying to share you. Once a man is handling a woman intimately, and their chemistry is right and airtight, the last thing he wants is another man near his woman and most importantly near the body that he now calls home.

For more articles by Randy ‘Wood’ Ritchwood – check out: 9 Signs A Grown Man Is Falling In Love

 Randy ‘Wood’ Ritchwood is an East Orange, New Jersey resident and a divorced father of 4. He is also a serial businessman, restaurant owner, real estate owner, and the former reality star of ‘I Love New York.’  ‘Wood’ as he is often addressed, is also the 2005 winner of Oxygen’s show ‘Mr. Romance.’ To spice up Mommynoire from a man’s perspective, he will be contributing a weekly column targeting sex, intimacy, dating, marriage, baby mamas, and divorce challenges. In his eyes: “Remember, I’m not your doctor, I’m not your therapist, I’m just your man ‘Wood’ Randy Ritchwood.”