From the Mouths of Men: Post Baby Body Attractive?

Ladies, we’ve got a little something special in store for you on this lovely day. For those of us who have had the most amazing, yet, labored experience called childbirth it’s no secret the joys far outweigh the pain. However, fast forward, nine months to a year later and your body bears the scars of having toted an extra body for almost a year.

Some women have the magical ability to “snap back” to their factory settings and show not one obvious sign of having a baby – but we’re so not even discussing unicorns right now. All too many women know the woes of transformations that takes place, for example, the extra breast cuppage was nice while nursing but they aren’t the same once that’s said and done. In worse cases, the metaphorical “twins” are now so East Coast/West Coast and estranged they wouldn’t recognize each other in a line up.

Then there’s the loose skin that doesn’t tighten back up to its original tone and elasticity, sometimes that gets so bad you have to tuck the extra fold into your once favorite jeans that you’ve now abandoned for leggings and yoga pants. Some of us just don’t give a hell – what you see is what you get and guess what? It’s a gift! Now say thank you! Others are hugely uncomfortable and at times unhappy about the bang up job the kids did to their body and just don’t feel attractive anymore. But, guess what ladies! We took to the streets and asked a few gentlemen if they think a woman’s post baby body is still attractive. You’ll be surprised at what they had to say! Check it out …

From the Mouths of Men: Is a Woman’s Post Baby Body Still Attractive?

Well, I feel like, if you’re a man and you’re trippin’ over a few stretch marks or a few extra pounds after your lady had a baby, then you’re operating from a very shallow space to begin with. If you truly care about a woman and she happens to have carried and delivered your kids and you can’t get past a few obvious signs that she’s carried them, you’re a shallow being. The only thing stretch marks indicate is the fact that you’ve gone from smaller to larger or the opposite – so what’s the problem, you know? For me personally, I wouldn’t be less attracted to a woman in any way because she’s had a baby. But if it got to a point where she’s just unhealthy and “let herself go” and her health is at risk then I’d be less than man for not calling it to her attention and help her take the necessary steps to get her focused on her wellness. – Sky, 30-something, Writer

I’m probably going to get roasted for this but that is one of the main reasons my ex-wife and I divorced. We had our daughter first and her body bounced back then six years later we had twin boys. I pressed her so hard to get the weight off because I just wanted to see her get back to her original figure. She had loose skin on her stomach and her breasts definitely deflated and I felt that she just quit working on herself. What I didn’t realize is that she was struggling with postpartum depression. I was like ‘nah, that’s all in your head’ and kept pressing her to lose the weight but when I finally realized that I was negligent in caring for her feelings it was too late. She was disgusted with me and rightfully so, I was an asshole to her and didn’t even hold myself to the same standards. That’s almost 10 years ago now and she remarried about 2 years ago. It really hurts to see your family with someone other than you and if I could do it all over again, things would be so much different … so much different. – Anonymous, 41, Financial Advisor

Personally, for me, it is what it is. It’s not a turn off whatsoever because I know what she’s been through. Just because she had a baby doesn’t mean that suddenly she has a bad body by default. Especially if she’s my wife and we’re having kids together. I would almost expect it to some degree and from what I understand a very small percentage of women fully return to their former size. Hell, in most cases, it’s all in the right places. If she “let herself go” we could hit the treadmill together – that’s what a partner is supposed to do, right? I’m not a fan of cosmetic surgery but, at the same time, it’s not my body so I understand why some women resort to that but I, personally, wouldn’t suggest it as an option. At the end of the day, it’s all a part of life, right? Stuckey, 34, Writer

Mmm, no. Stretch marks and pregnancy battle scars do not scare me away from any woman. I know a lot of dudes who wouldn’t even touch a woman that had a baby. I think it’s kind of sexy, actually, and stupid guys like that leave more for me in a sense. There’s something sexy about a woman’s body after she’s had kids. I think that has a lot to do with a certain level of modesty that goes out the window afterwards. But then, you know, you got these women who go out and get thousands of dollars worth of surgery – new boobs and butts – I absolutely despise it. Nothing is more of a turn-off than a woman with artificial body parts, I don’t find it attractive at all. What I find attractive is a woman with gym routine. If she had a baby, so what? But if she’s the kind that won’t let having a baby keep her being as fine as she wants to be, that’s sexy to me – along with the confidence that comes with it! – Jason, 39, Process Analyst

I don’t know if it’s me getting older but I think women with kids are freaking awesome! They get thicker and they look like what a woman is supposed to look like – in my eyes. The thicker and fuller hips and thighs are the truest essence of womanhood. When I was younger I was like “eh, she’s had kids. I’m good.” But I’ve never been happier to be so wrong about something in my life. What can I say? Stretch marks? I love them! Without a woman we would have nothing and civilization would cease to exist. There’s nothing closer to God than a woman because she is the creator of life and I can’t describe to you the feeling of connecting with the source of life itself. I mean, men are a necessary factor too but the life source is within the woman. And for her to have housed and birthed another body and, not only lived to tell about it, but is a good mom to all her babies and can still find the time to love and nurture a man … at the same damn time? Yo, it’s incredible. Women are the sh*t, that’s my word. – Charles, 33, Educator