As parents, we all want what’s best for our children. Unfortunately, for some of us, we’ve not only had to cope with the struggles of a dissolved marriage or relationship but we’ve also had to guide the children through the tumult with as little trouble as possible. The first priority is making sure the kids are okay and at peace with the split before we remotely consider our own needs and wants. As the wounds heal over time, the children generally just want to see Mom and Dad happy.
Which brings us to the discussion at hand – dating with children. The idea of a blended family is quite overwhelming for some and, in some cases, may discourage some single parents from dating. But when the time is right and a single parent is ready to move on and seriously consider sharing their life with a special someone, that “special someone” should be of full understanding that not only are they courting the parent, they’re courting the kids. It’s a package deal. This notion, however, is one that cannot be confirmed without observing the interaction between the kids and newcomer. As first impressions are lasting, it may be wise to work together and choose the best times and place to conduct the big intro. The first encounter could sometimes be quite awkward, no doubt, but it really doesn’t have to be if it’s done the right way – meaning, it’s all about the kids and you just happen to tagging along! Here are a few first date friendly places to get to know each other and have a little fun at the same time!
Dating With Children: 12 Family Friendly First Date Ideas
MUSEUM
The museum is a great place to learn a child’s thoughts and interests. Learning things together makes it easier to learn more about each other.
ARCADE
Ah, the joys of a good video game veg session! All the new school games are tough for those of us coming from the age of Atari and Nintendo so let the kids show you who’s boss while showing them you can take a loss in stride.
ICE CREAM SHOP
What kid doesn’t like ice cream? Why not break the ice in one of those ice cream shops where they can pick and choose all the sugary trinkets they’d like to add to it. To take it a step further, let them order yours!
SWIMMING POOL
Summer fun at a swimming pool is the perfect elixir for good old fashioned fun! Marco Polo and Shark Attack are sure to keep the kids entertained! This outing will be one they won’t soon forget!
BOWLING
A little friendly competition never hurt anyone! Set up teams – kids vs. adults – and bowl a few rounds! The pizza and pretzels don’t hurt either!
SKATING RINK
There’s nothing wrong with revisiting your own childhood and busting a few moves on the rink! If you’re a little rusty, no worries! The kids will be your guide and help you around the rink, they’ll appreciate your ability to laugh at yourself.
AMUSEMENT PARK
Roller coasters and water rides are something all kids love! Maybe you can help the child overcome his or her fears and finally ride a roller coaster or vice versa! Either way, letting lose and screaming it out may be oddly therapeutic!
INDOOR KART RACING
For the older kids, the thrill of getting behind the wheel and kart racing with Mom or Dad’s date is a surefire path to “supercool” status!
MINIATURE GOLF
Miniature golf is just darn fun! The mazes and tricky game plots keep you engaged in friendly conversation, all the while getting to know the kids!
SCREEN ON THE GREEN
Some days, kids are simply rambuncious and don’t want to sit still much less have long winded conversations about school, sports and the like. Some kids may just want to observe how you and their Mom or Dad interact or how well you compliment each other. With a movie in the background and space to play, you can create the perfect balance of exchange!
BIKE RIDE
If you live near a lakeshore or beach get your bikes and ride out! Getting out and moving together is an awesome way to guage how well your energies pair with the parent/child(ren) dynamic. Is it effortless? Does it need a little work? How well do you fit?
INDOOR TRAMPOLINE PARK
Letting off some steam jumping around in a trampoline park is a no brainer … especially if you’ve got boys! Not only can you reach Jordan status with the dunk contests you can pummell each other in dodgeball games! No excuse to not have a blast!
