How to Get a Man's Attention Without Looking Desperate

1. Hit the damn gym

This could, in some cases, qualify as “trying too hard,” depending on if you’re doing it for the sole purpose of getting a guy. But catching the eyes of men from all races and creeds starts with having the banging frame to serve as a canvas for all that you can do with it. Some regular cardio and weight training – coupled with a diet that won’t make Star Jones shoot a load – will make you more attractive while assisting in your personal well being. Win-win.

2. Tweak your wardrobe

I’m not a fashionista. Most straight men aren’t. But we know what works, and a sophisticated man appreciates clothes that are hot without being trampy, seductive without trying too hard. If you’re rocking a mad Hot miniskirt revealing any part of your unmentionables, we’ll look at and perhaps approach you…but only to try to bust down. You’ll never meet our mommy.

Now an elegant, body-hugging skirt to the knees and dope strappy stilettos? That’ll get his attention.

3. SMILE, for chrissakes

It should go without saying, but a lot of you single dames are hanging out in public with the interminable Cliff face and going home alone wondering why you’ve bothered giving your Rabbit a first name. You could be as fine as frog legs and dudes will never approach you if you are hanging out at a club or bar looking like you wish you weren’t there. If you’re having a bad day, stay home and watch “True Blood” or go out, have a caipirinha and smile it off.

4. First conversations aren’t for life stories

So the guy has come to you. Mazel tov, but it’s not over. Keeping his attention and getting him to trade the math with you involves keeping up with (admittedly banal) small talk with that smile on your face. Act interested when we talk about our successes in the gym. Laugh at our lame jokes. All the while, inject interesting things about yourself into the conversation that will intrigue us to revisit them on a first date. DON’T go into detail about how lame your dating life has been or admit in detail how your alopecia has been acting up with the change in seasons. Mystery is good sometimes.

5. Don’t be an early-slay casualty

As I stated in the beginning, this is a guide is for getting a man, not a bone-smooch buddy. You give up the goods on Night One, about 95 percent of your intrigue goes out the window and attempts to get in a relationship with the dude will be laughed at. You’ve given up your trump card and your power. Even if you’re marinating like a roast pig, keep us on the line for a while as you get to know us – we’ll respect you for it.