15 Ultimatums You Shouldn't Give in Relationships

Are you more likely to listen to someone who tries to speak to you from the heart, or makes threats? No matter how much we love a person, there’s a right and wrong way of doing things. Take a look at these relationship ultimatums that might not give you a happy ending you’d like to see.

No friends of the opposite sex

Say what now?

It’s one thing to ask to meet your partner’s friends–especially if they’re female–but to say someone can’t have any friends with anatomy different from theirs is wrong.

Proposal deadline

Ladies, if you have to twist a man’s arm to get a “will you marry me?” something is off in the relationship. For starters, most men work on their own schedules, no matter how stupid or long we think they are. You also don’t want to force someone to do something as it won’t come from the heart.

Get rid of your pet

Come on, you can’t expect someone to get rid of their pet! Believe it or not, there are some people who don’t want to compete with a four-legged animal and ask they be removed from a home.

Stop playing video games

No matter how childish you think video games are, it’s probably not a good idea to end a relationship because he enjoys Call of Duty too much. Speak to your love about cutting back a little or trying to find a better balance.

Don’t be so close with your family

Just because you aren’t close with his mother, sister or any other family member does not mean he can’t have a good relationship with them. Trying to drive a wedge between someone and their relatives is never good.

Give me kids!

This should have been discussed before you became so committed in a relationship. At the end of the day, you need to be with someone who has like-minded goals and values, but don’t try to pressure someone to do something–like become a parent–if they already told you no.

Handle this situation, now

Please understand that everyone is different when it comes to how they go through life. Kudos to you for being upfront and a straight shot, but don’t criticize someone if they don’t handle things in the same manner.

I don’t like your friends

This conversation deserves serious one-on-one time and not an argument. If your love has been friends with someone for a long time, don’t expect them to just kick them to the curb because you said so.

If you want sex…

Women in particular have a very bad habit of using sex to get what they want. This is a very dangerous road to travel as you might leave the door open for them to get their “fix” elsewhere.

Lose a few pounds

Think about the words you say to someone as they can be extremely hurtful. Weight can be very emotional for people–and the last thing they need is negative criticism from the person they love. Be an encourager, but don’t break up because they aren’t losing weight.

We need to move in together

News flash, not everyone wants to live together before they take the next step. Sure, it’s a great way to learn more about each other, but do your best not to pressure your partner into sharing an address with you.

Relocate with me

Congratulations on your new job! Should it require you to change zip codes, do have a chat with the person you’re dating, but don’t give them the ultimatum of moving. If your relationship was meant to be, it will work out–regardless of the distance.

Change your appearance

There had to be something about your love that you enjoyed earlier in the relationship. Why are you trying to change how they look now?

No more guys/girls nights

It’s okay for people to enjoy time with others. Unless you disagree with the type of activities your love does with his or her friends, don’t object to a night out with their buds.