15 Personality Traits That Never Change

Your talkativeness

You’ll never suddenly be comfortable dominating the conversation at a dinner party, when you’ve spent your entire life listening to everyone diligently and waiting for the right time to chime in. Similarly, you’ll never suddenly enjoy being quiet in social settings and just taking it all in, if you’ve spent your whole life being a big talker.

How well you speak

Studies have found that already as children we develop our pretty-much-permanent verbal fluency. In other words, you’re either a very to-the-point talker forever, or you’re someone who talks around his/her point, fumbles through words etc.

Impulsiveness in earning

You’re either someone who feels a strong pull to buy the designer dress/take the job that sounds too good to be true because it is or you’re someone who thinks twice.

Impulsiveness in doing

You also are pretty much born the type of person who will marry someone really early, or you’re not.

Reading the room

You’ve probably met full-grown adults who just can’t read the room—who walk into a dinner party and want to announce their exciting news and somehow miss that everyone seems somber about something. That’s because each individual’s ability to read social situations has limits, no matter the age.

Adapting

Just because you can read a room doesn’t mean you can adapt! Some people can always swiftly and even happily adapt to their surroundings and different personalities, while others really struggle to do so.

Your propensity for hard work

To some hard work just doesn’t feel like hard work—they were born feeling restless unless they were constantly working towards something. To others, every moment of work feels like it sucks up all their energy.

Humility

You really can’t learn humility or unlearn cockiness. You either genuinely feel humbled by others, admire others, and make a point of appreciating others, or you only see what good you’ve done and forget to compare and contrast.

Victim mentality

This is almost impossible to change at its core, but you can at least train yourself to make a conscious effort not to be a victim. Some people lose a job and think, “The world is after me,” others lose a job and think, “Well I could have done this or that differently,” while others lose a job and think, “It seriously feels like the world is after me but that’s immature to think so I’ll work hard not to act on those thoughts.”

Your sexual overtness

From a pretty young age you either are comfortable walking up to a stranger in a bar and kissing him, or you feel literally nauseous at the thought of it.

Risk taking

Even those who have near death experiences and swear to never live a dull moment again just slide back into their old routines. Risk either feels like the natural state of being for you, or it feels like a state of panic.

Your need to overthink things

Trying to learn to not overthink things would be like turning the lights off in a room and hoping you forgot what you saw in there. Once the tendency to worry and overthink sneaks into your brain, it is there to stay. You can do mental exercises to fight it off, but that’s how it will go: by you fighting it off.

Your comfort in chaos

Let’s put it this way: some people stand at a concert in Coachella and only notice that if there were a fire, they wouldn’t be able to escape, and that people are pushing them from all angles and that they can’t hear their own thoughts. Others only notice the band they’re there to see. Chaos either feels like chaos to you or it doesn’t.

How much alone time you need

If you’re someone who needs to have social plans all of the time, needs to bring a friend to run a simple errand and can’t live alone that will never really change. You might recognize the value of alone time and force yourself to take it, but you’ll naturally gravitate towards being with others. Or, you won’t.

Your relationship with food

For many, many reasons, some people can’t stop thinking about food, while some forget to eat for 12 hours. Some don’t think much of what they’re putting in their body, while some obsess over how their food affects all of their functions. With knowledge, you’ll lean more one way or the other. But you have a natural relationship with food that will hardly change. Think about it: even if in your lifetime you’ve been overweight, super underweight, a competitive eater and a fitness model, you’ve spent your whole life very aware of food. If you didn’t realize you had a relationship with food then that tells you a lot about your relationship with food.