8 Things You Can’t Help But Fight With Your Partner About - Page 12

Even the most solid of couples fight about these things. Every time one of these issues comes up, you know there is no resolution to it. And yet, you let it push your buttons and ruin your night. Here are 8 things you can’t help but fight with your boyfriend about.

How long you’ll visit your family

You’ve planned a trip to visit your family. He’s all on board. Except…he would like to leave by noon the last day you’re there. Your logic is, “We already lose that day travelling: why not spend a few extra hours with my family and leave at 4?” His logic is, “I’m already giving up my entire weekend to visit your family. You can’t meet this one condition for me?” Your logic is, “Giving UP your weekend? Oh really?!”

What always happens…

You realize you were being overly sensitive. You realize that you, too, wouldn’t mind getting home at 8 pm rather than midnight. And you realize he didn’t mean, “Giving up” in a bad way. He just used the wrong words. You leave at noon on Sunday.

Who prioritizes the relationship more

He stays for the after-party drinks after his office party. You’ve been waiting at home to hang. When he gets back and explains why he’s late, you get upset. You list all the times that you left something early/rescheduled something/gave up something to put the relationship first. He then lists all the times he has left something early/rescheduled something/given up something to put the relationship first. You’re both fuming. Now you’re both pissed because it sounds like your partner isn’t happy to give those things up.

What always happens…

You realize it’s ridiculous that you’re arguing to prove who loves who more. If you have to have that argument in the first place, you probably both love each other a lot. You wrap up the fight so you can salvage the last hour you have together before going to bed.

Morning alarms

He hits the snooze button several times. He likes to be slowly woken up by several alarms. You, on the other hand, do not appreciate being slowly woken up when you don’t need to wake up for another two hours. By the time all of his alarms have gone off, you’re both wide awake. But you didn’t need to be and you’re pissed.

What always happens…

You’re super cranky as he gets ready for work. You curl up in your side of the bed and give him death stares as he brushes his teeth. You ignore him when he tries to kiss you goodbye. Then, a few hours later, when you’ve had your coffee, you realize you just love him so much and feel awful about the way you acted that morning. You call him to tell him. You’ll have the same fight tomorrow.

The temperature in the house

You’re too cold, but he argues you can just add more blankets—he’ll be too hot if you turn on the heater. You get angry that your guy doesn’t immediately do whatever he can to make you warm (like turn on the heater.) When he tries to cuddle you you say, “Your feet are cold. Everything is cold. Get away from me.”

What always happens…

You realize you feel really sad going to bed without cuddling at all. You roll over, apologize, cuddle and maybe have sex. He says, “We can turn the heater on…” and you say, “No. It’s okay.”

Gifts from exes

He swears the gift doesn’t mean anything to him anymore, but that it is a really comfortable shirt/useful gadget/valuable item. It would be a shame to get rid of it. You say, “Seeing it upsets me. Isn’t it worth it to get rid of it if that means I don’t get upset?” He says you’re being unfair.

What always ends up happening…

He probably attacks you with compliments or cuddles and tells you, “You know you’re the only one for me now…” until you finally giggle and say, “I know, I know…” And the gift is tucked away until the next time you stumble upon it and fight again.

What always ends up happening…

You realize this is a useless fight. Only your two friends can decide if they like each other. Just invite them to the same party and see what happens.

Watching your show vs. having sex

He wants to watch an episode of the show you two watch as a couple before bed. You know he’ll get too tired during the show to have sex after. You see him wanting to watch the show as not wanting to have sex with you. He argues that’s absolutely not true, and you can do both things. You know you won’t do both things but you say, “I don’t care. I don’t want to have sex anyways. Turn on the stupid show.”

What always ends up happening…

You watch the show at opposite sides of the bed, until you start to miss each other, and slowly move into a cuddle. You fall asleep before the end credits, and mumble to each other, “I’m sorry. We’ll have sex in the morning.”

You had a bad day but so did he

You come home wanting to vent about something and he says, “I’ve had a bad day. I can’t listen to anything negative right now.” You say, “Oh so your bad day trumps mine. I can’t talk about my stuff because you have stuff?”

What always ends up happening…

You both argue that the other isn’t being sensitive to their bad day, go to your separate corners, and then realize you’re being absurd: you could just have sex and everyone would feel better.