15 Things Women Need To Stop Judging Each Other For

The hard truth behind judgment is that we judge others because, in some way, they reflect insecurities we feel about ourselves. So if you catch yourself talking about another woman for one of the following reasons, you might just be jealous or frightened over something in your own life.

For giving up a “good guy”

Just because you think your friend’s guy is “perfect” and you know he is moral, kind to her, hardworking, would make a great dad etc., doesn’t mean your friend feels chemistry with him. She isn’t dumb for leaving him: she might just know in her gut he’s not the one.

For dating guys they don’t plan on marrying

Newsflash: guys date women they know they won’t marry all of the time! Your friend is allowed to date different guys for the experience, for learning about what’s out there, and for learning about herself.

 For dating guys who clearly aren’t committed

Stop assuming your friend doesn’t value herself or has low self esteem for continuing to go over to the house of the guy who only texts her at 2 am on a Friday night: maybe she’s just in it for the sex too. Or maybe she’s just in it for the fun. Don’t always assume the guy is in control.

For moving for a man

Perhaps she isn’t desperate, or would do anything to be in a relationship. Perhaps she just knows he’s the one, and she knows what matters in life and that you don’t let the one get away.

 For passing on a job for a man

So your friend doesn’t take that amazing job opportunity across the country, because she wants to stay where she is with her guy. Refer to last point: she knows what will make her happiest. Maybe it’s this guy.

For marrying young

People are marrying older and older today, but that doesn’t mean they have to wait. If your friend gets engaged young, consider her lucky for not having to deal with the jungle that is the dating scene for several more years!

 For not marrying

On the other hand, maybe your friend never marries, and you assume she is just too picky, or doesn’t know how to accommodate other people. But maybe she is just happy unmarried!

For keeping the baby

This is a sensitive subject but, with women gaining more rights in terms of what to do when they become pregnant, there is a trend to judge a woman for keeping a baby when she hadn’t planned on having one. But isn’t it hypocritical to fight for a woman’s right to do what she wants with her body only to judge her for what she decides?

For getting breast implants

Maybe your friend isn’t doing it to attract a man! Plenty of women do this for themselves: because they get more confidence from it, enjoy shopping more, and in general feel more beautiful. If it makes someone happy, we say go for it!

For sleeping with a lot of guys

Enough with the slut shaming! Haven’t we learned by now that women have a sex drive, just like men do? And just because a woman can have emotionless sex, doesn’t mean she doesn’t have emotions! She is just able to differentiate between the guys she has feelings for and those she does not.

For only dating successful guys

So long as she still actually likes the guys, there is nothing wrong with your friend wanting to date someone who can afford to do things like travel with her and try new restaurants.

For never dating successful guys

On the other hand, if your friend is willing to struggle with a man so long as she loves him, more power to her! If it doesn’t stress her out, it shouldn’t stress you out.

For worrying too much about their figure

The world can be a tough place for women. Stop saying a woman is vein, conceited or frivolous for spending lots of money on trainers and nutritionists. This is her journey with her body, and you have yours.

For spending lots of money

She worked for that money! She can spend it on as many designer shoes as she wants, or live in a place with three bedrooms when she’s single.

For financially helping their man

Why is it when a man financially supports a woman, it’s “kind,” “generous,” or even “responsible” but when a woman supports a man he must be “using her”? Double standard!