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Why that doesn’t work

What are you afraid your mom will think of his casual t-shirt and jeans? That he’s lazy? That he’s unambitious? That he’s disrespectful? It should be clear enough from ten minutes of speaking to him that he is none of those things. If you really think your parents would make such harsh decisions about him based on his clothes, that’s their issue: not yours. Stand by your guy and let him be himself.

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You talk about his “other” ambitions in front of your parents

Even though he’s happy at his current job, when he starts to talk to your parents about it, you cut him off to tell them all about the other jobs he’s being offered, and the other projects he’s working on, because you don’t think your parents think his job is good enough.

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Why that doesn’t work

Be grateful your guy is happy at his job! Maybe dating a guy who can’t afford to rent a house in Aspen is less than the dream, but what’s a nightmare is dating a man who is miserable at his job. A man with a good attitude about his circumstances is someone you want to be with. Your parents should be wise enough to see that.

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Why that doesn’t work

You are too old to not know the sentiment, “It’s the thought that counts.” If your guy can come up with thoughtful gifts on a budget that you’ll actually enjoy and use, hold onto him. You can almost bet that diamond necklace your friend got is just supposed to be shiny enough to distract her from the fact that her guy makes no effort to really get to know her.

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Why that doesn’t work

Some couples just don’t need to talk all the time! They’re connected enough to still feel connected, even if they only communicate once a day when they’re apart. In fact, if you are that type of couple, sometimes talking just for the sake of talking can make you feel more distant because you end up talking about insignificant matters.

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You get mad about his Valentine’s Day plans

You didn’t need a whole to-do on Valentine’s Day. You loved that he made you dinner and handpicked you flowers. But when you heard how your friend’s guy made a reservation at the most popular restaurant months in advance, and got her five gifts which he hid around her home and office throughout the week, your guy looks lazy to you.

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You get mad he doesn’t invite you to every family function

You thought it was nice that when his parents came to visit for a weekend, he invited you to lunch with them. But when your friend tells you that her guy never goes anywhere without her, including every family function, suddenly you’re thinking your guy is ashamed of you or not committed to you.