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A few weeks ago we told you about London-based recording artist and mother to Kaseem “Swizz Beatz” Dean’s daughter, Jahna Sebastian. In a telling interview, Jahna argued that her daughter, Nicole, was not the reason for Swizz’s split from Mashonda because she made sure that she did not reveal that she’d given birth to Swizz’s child until after the troubled couple announced their divorce. Since our initial report, many of you still had questions regarding the logic behind Jahna’s decision, what prompted her to even sleep with a married man and how she can say that things are “all good” with the producer’s now-ex-wife. We were recently given the opportunity to chat with Jahna, who offered answers to some of your burning questions.

“I don’t want to be associated with those women who look out for a rich man, a baller or any other successful man to help them have an easy ride in life,” the singer/songwriter told me. “That behavior is totally the opposite of who I am and what I represent, I have always chosen to get what I want through hard work myself, even though there have always been great men around. I have always relied on myself. I work hard for my career and my child.”

Unlike the way it is now, the single mother explained that her former lover’s personal life was nowhere near as publicized as it now at the time of their relationship. In fact, Jahna says that his personal life was so under the radar in the UK, that she had no idea he was even married.

“I was not aware of him being married at the time, I thought he was single like myself and he acted like a single man,” the “I Am Free” singer explained. “He was not that well-known here anyway at that time, his private life was nowhere near as publicized in 2007 as it is now.”

“I don’t really follow other musicians lives anyway. I saw this as a meeting of equals,” she resolved before revealing that their affair had taken place prior to her learning of his marital status. “I found out that he was married after things had already happened, but it was too late.”

Shortly after this major revelation, Kaseem returned to the States and Jahna received more shocking news.

“He left to US and I was absolutely shocked to learn a few weeks later that I was pregnant as I did not plan to have children until the age of thirty and definitely not to be a single mother in a situation like that. Career, marriage, then children – in that particular order – was my plan. When things happen not as you planned, the only explanation to that is fate. A child is a blessing regardless.”

On top of learning that she would be bringing a child into the world alone, the Russian refugee was detained during her pregnancy due to immigration issues. However, instead of reaching out to Kaseem for help, she went through the process alone out of her refusal to destroy his marriage.

“When I was unlawfully detained for two months by a major mistake of the Home Office while being pregnant with Nicole, I came out of it without her father’s help or even child support at the time even though I knew from the start who the father was. If I made claims at that time, it would have created a scandal all over the place and caused the divorce, so I chose the hard way. I dealt with all my immigration problems which were actually Nicole’s as well since she could only stay in UK as my dependent, without bothering Swizz or anyone on the other side with lawsuits.”

“I wrote to every person in UK I could think of instead of sending lawyers to Swizz and destroying his marriage. I chose to go without child support for two years and the help of someone who could have easily resolved the situation with his connections.”

“My immigration case was publicized at the time but there wasn’t even one mention of his name, although with that situation it could have made even bigger headlines, but I had to save my child from becoming possible reason of the divorce. I clearly imagined how it would hurt to be in a position of a wife learning that her husband went and had a baby on the side, and so I stayed away from this.”

“Nobody knew about Nicole and I apart from the Home Office and a few close people to me until the right time came, which was after the divorce filing,” she continued. “I’m not saying this to get a pat on the back, I am just telling the truth, that’s my life.”

Since coming forward as Nicole’s mother, Jahna reveals that she has received quite a bit of harsh criticism from people who are unfamiliar with the full story. However, as a South Indian refugee who was forced to flee Russia due to racism and the rising neo-Nazi movement, Jahna says she’s used to being prejudged.

“After 19 years of my life dealing with strangers calling me names accompanied by death threats just because of my skin color in Russia, other things said online seem like nothing. I am my own worst critic anyway. I don’t expect everyone to like me,” she expressed. “If you didn’t look like a white Russian you were under the threat of being beaten up to make you disabled or killed by those racist groups any time of the day or night. So called ‘white patrols’ were coming out on the street chasing every non white person they could see, as they considered them ‘subhuman’ and even white parents of mixed race children were threatened.”

“If some people choose to waste their time on hating for no reason instead of working on fighting their own demons that is their problem and if it bothers them so much, may be they should look into their own unresolved childhood issues they are projecting on others. All the self-proclaimed ‘saints’ on social media hiding behind computer screens don’t really get much ahead by casting stones. Nobody is perfect.”

The Music Business degree holder adds prior to her pregnancy, she was self-sufficient.

“I have always been driven to succeed myself, be able to pay for the lifestyle I want myself and make a change in the world and only after that to find a serious partner in life. I moved to London with one suitcase all alone without any family, found a full-time job working over fifty hours a week while attending Music Production Course in the evenings, I paid my rent and college fees with my salary. I bought a flat in London in cash and set up my own studio where I started recording people, creating a movement all before I got pregnant. I have my own house which I bought in cash, I have a Degree, a child, a business I have been running for many years and a profession that I love and have dedicated most of my life to mastering. Today women have the right to become a president just like men, and I would never be content with being someone’s shadow instead of building up and making big things happen.”

Despite being depicted as a homewrecker who assisted in the deterioration of Swizz’s marriage to Mashonda, the single mothers appear to have connected for the greater good of their children.

“We [Mashonda and I] have been in contact for a few years. She did not know that Nicole and I even existed until July 2009 when she and Swizz got the letter with the news at the same time. It was after some time since the divorce had already been filed for other reasons. She is a great mother and a nice person.”

It looks like everyone was able to make the best out of an extremely tough situation.

Check out Jahna’s latest music video “I Am Free” below.