There are good guys, and then there are bad ones. And Lord knows we’ve all had our share of bad relationships. We’ve even have good relationships with good men that would sometimes work our last nerves. And that’s life. Life is about learning to accept and experience the good with the bad. But when the bad seriously starts to outweigh the good, or when there never seems to be any good, it may be time to do a little introspection. Do you find yourself constantly attracting or getting involved with the worst type of guy? Have your relationship experiences lead you believe that all men are trifling? If you have these feelings, I’ll offer a few words to marinate on: All men are different and the common denominator in all your relationships is YOU. So maybe it’s time to consider that you pick the wrong or worst type of guys. If you fall into any of the 12 scenarios that also happen to be major red flags in ANY relationship, maybe it’s time to reevaluate your selection criteria for Mr. Right. Here are 12 signs that you pick the worst guys to date.
You might be picking the worst guys if….
1. You think it’s normal to be in a “relationship” with a man but never see him on the holidays, visit his house, and/or meet his friends & family
You might be picking the worst guys if….
2. You think it’s normal to deal with a man’s baby momma drama, crazy stalker ex-girlfriends, or tons of female “friends” that don’t know their place
You might be picking the worst guys if….
3. You keep the STD clinic on speed dial because you never know when you’ll need to get “checked”
You might be picking the worst guys if….
4. After every breakup, your bills go up and your credit score goes way down
You might be picking the worst guys if….
5. You think it’s normal for a man to resolve conflict by putting you in a headlock
You might be picking the worst guys if….
6. You think it’s acceptable for a man to regularly ask you to pick up the tab because he’s unemployed, still living with his parents, and working on his breakthrough rap album
You might be picking the worst guys if….
7. If you tend to date men who work in “pharmaceuticals” or “the medical field” but also leave the house in a bullet-proof vest.
You might be picking the worst guys if….
8. If prefer a man who insists on driving a car that’s worth more than his house.
You might be picking the worst guys if….
9. NONE of your close friends or family members ever like your man
You might be picking the worst guys if….
10. You think ALL men cheat and all men are liars- and you still can’t wait to go on your next date.
You might be picking the worst guys if….
11. You take it as a sign of flattery whenever your man bad mouths all his exes and other women
You might be picking the worst guys if….
12. You think groups like Narcotics Anonymous and Alcoholics Anonymous are great places to meet eligible men
Dr. Phoenyx Austin is a physician, writer/journalist, & spokesperson. She earned her Bachelors in Psychology from the University of Florida and her Doctorate in Medicine (MD) from Meharry Medical College. A woman of many accomplishments, and a writer to her core, Dr. Austin loves providing honest and sometimes provocative commentary on current events, cultural topics, as well as offering advice to women in areas of living, relationships, and health. You can read more articles on her blog PhoenyxRising.com and add her on Facebook (www.facebook.com/PhoenyxAustin).
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