The “side chick” is one of the most maligned people this side of “the dude who stole all the money from the collection plate on the Sunday we was collecting for the baby hospital.” However, folks don’t always acknowledge the fact that the other woman might have been led to believe that she was the only woman (or that she was dealing with someone who was free to date more that one person). Here are a few signs that you may be an unwitting participant in an affair:
1) You’ve Never Been To His House
This is undoubtedly the biggest red flag an unfaithful partner can wave at his other lovers, and one that far too many women are willing to ignore. If you haven’t seen a man’s house after a few weeks of dating, something ain’t right. It may just be a disgusting bachelor pad…or he may have some pads in under the sink. See what I did there? Anyway, there’s no real excuse for a man hiding his home from you and if he keeps giving them to you, he might be hiding something else: you.
2) You Don’t Know His Loved Ones The “other woman” may get to hang out with some of a man’s homeboys, but she probably won’t get introduced to his whole crew (especially not his female friends) or his parents. Friends who may be loyal to his girlfriend or are known for being gossipy won’t get the introduction either. And if you have met family, you were not granted a formal introduction (i.e. running into his sister at a party or being at his house when his cousins drop by). Not knowing the key players in his life after a few weeks= normal. Not knowing them after 8 months= um…yeah.
3) He Doesn’t See You During Normal Business Hours You might not be simply relegated to after-the-club booty calls, but if you’re the side girl, you don’t have an all access pass either. Unless his girlfriend/wife is out of town, you probably wont get the marathon Saturday night dinner through Sunday brunch date. You can’t count on Friday being ‘boo time’. You can’t spring things on him last minute and he’s always got to check his schedule and move things around before he agrees to set a time to do anything with you aside from coming by for some action.
6) He Leaves The Room To Use The Phone Another red flag that far too many women let slide. If he walks away from you every time ‘Sarah’ calls…he just might go with Sarah. And he probably don’t go with you. What are some other signs that let you know you’re not his main?
