Cynthia: The fibroid thing had taken over my life…I literally felt like a pregnant lady all of the time that never delivered a baby, which kind of sucks.
Dr. Tiff: For a lot of women there’s a lot of bleeding involved.
Cynthia: I was anemic as well because of the heavy bleeding which meant, even if I did– well I just never felt like doing anything, let alone having sex.
Dr. Tiff: A period is seven days on fibroids. How did that impact your relationship?
Cynthia: I knew it was really a problem when Peter started feeling like low self esteem about our relationship. He started to say things like I feel like you’re not attracted to me anymore. You never want to do it anymore. I feel like when I snuggle up to you, you’re like ‘Please, please. I can’t.’
Dr. Tiff: And what was the real, what was the truth for you?
Cynthia: The truth is exactly what he said. That’s how I felt when I was dealing with it. I wanted to be left alone. I wanted to sleep when I could sleep. I did not have a high sex drive. And my husband is very attracted to me, he wants to have sex with me. And I wanted to have sex with me as well…
Dr. Tiff: How did you guys turn this around? And I’m sure you guys went into this in your new book Carry-On Baggage
Cynthia: You know our joke is, ‘honey I want to have sex with you, my fibroid doesn’t want to have sex with you. Because this thing was really sucking the life out of me. And I had a very embarrassing accident at a huge Bravo event where I bled all over the place basically. And it just was–at that point– like I was embarrassed but Peter was mortified because he’s like ‘Babe, you can’t keep living like this.’ And even just mentally it was starting to be really depressing. So, finally I was just like I’m not going to do this anymore. I have to find an answer to this because it’s really taking over everything that I do. And I have to work. I don’t have time to sleep and be off.
Dr. Tiff: So you had the procedure so how are you now?
Cynthia:There was just a little procedure at the end. The recovery time was like 3 days. I felt better almost two weeks later. It was the best thing I ever did my only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner.
Dr. Tiff: How is the sex life now?
Cynthia: Oh, we’re doing it all the time now. He’s probably going to get some when I get home.
I have to commend her for speaking so candidly about this. I’ve heard several women talk about how they themselves or women they knew were living with fibroids but I never knew how serious the condition is. It’s great that Cynthia, in her position can talk about how it negatively affected her life, the embarrassment and how she ultimately found a solution.
Cynthia talks about having to get a little ratchet during the upcoming episodes of this season’s RHOA on the next page.
