7 Slightly Awkward Sex Talks To Have With Your Partner
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No matter how old you are, talking about the details of sex can be awkward— especially with the person you’re having sex with! Drawn out conversations about the act can make the next few times you have sex feel a little mechanical but in the long run, they’ll make your sex life better. Here are conversations about what goes on between the sheets that, according to WomansDay.com, will help you have a happier relationship.
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Limits
The first few months or even years of sex with your partner, you might both be happy with the “usual” positions and acts—just being with a new person and discovering their body is exciting enough. But eventually one or both of you might want to incorporate handcuffs, toys, a third person, backdoor play—you name it.
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How to talk about it
It’s always best to have a conversation with your partner before introducing something a little less conventional. You don’t want to surprise somebody with a leather whip. To some this might be exciting, but to some it might be terrifying. Try simply asking your partner what riskier thing they’d like to try, and tell them the same information. Establish that it’s perfectly okay for either of you to turn down the other’s idea, but if you don’t talk about it, you’ll never know if maybe you could add a new move to your sexual menu.
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Ruts
No matter how much you love your partner or how much he turns you on, you will get sick of the same old repertoire in bed. A rut is almost inevitable because you and your partner will establish what works for the two of you, and then you’ll just rely on those moves. Your intentions are in a good place, but eventually the same old tricks won’t do it for either of you.
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How to talk about it
You’ll both be shy about bringing it up, because you don’t want your partner to feel you’re blaming them for the boredom, and you don’t want to ever imply you’re not sexually attracted to your partner. But odds are if you’re in a rut, you both feel it. Don’t hesitate to buy one of the hundreds of books out there, filled with ideas—from mild to very hot ones—on how to change things up. Read the book with your partner: you’ll both get turned on just by reading the sensual material together, and you could find some ideas you like along the way.
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Failure to launch
Pressure to perform, external stress, physical issues and a whole slew of problems could cause erectile dysfunction or premature “arrivals.” This can be very embarrassing for men—many say they feel like “lesser men” because of it. And of course, you’re left with the female version of “blue balls.”
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How to talk about it
Most men do not want to broach the subject while in bed. That’s a surefire way to have the problem happen again right then and there. So, in the bed, just ask your partner to pleasure you in other ways so the pressure is off him to perform. Then, outside the bedroom, bring it up. If you think the problem isn’t physical, just explain to your partner that you like when he goes more slowly or that you need more 4play in bed. If you do believe it’s physical, tell him you 100% support him seeing a specialist.
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Safety and health
Plenty of adults never talk about what sort of protection they’d like to use with their partner, nor do they ask one another for test results because it makes them feel like teenagers again. But even adults need to talk about sexual safety.
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How to talk about it
To avoid sounding like you’re interrogating your partner, start the conversation by telling him what form of birth control you use, and what your sexual health history is. If you have ever had an STD, or if you have a permanent condition like HPV or herpes, definitely let your partner know, and encourage him to do his own research so he knows what he’s comfortable with.
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Timing
Sometimes you’re just not in the mood! Don’t get into a head-spin of worrying that that means you’re not attracted to your partner. Even couples with amazing chemistry can be too tired, or stressed, or just going through something, and not feel like being sexual. Having sex with your partner just to make him happy, when you’re not in the mood, can just make you feel more emotionally distant.
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How to talk about it
Men quickly read “not right now” as “never again” so to calm that concern in your partner, touch him, smile, speak in a soft voice and say, “Not right now, but definitely later.” Sound excited when you say “definitely later” and follow up on that “later” time.
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Feedback
The one thing that can be more uncomfortable than talking about sex outside the bedroom, is talking about it during the act. But this is the greatest time to give your guy feedback, or to get feedback.
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How to talk about it
You can give your partner tons of nonverbal cues, like simply moving his hands for him, or slowly maneuvering the two of you into a position you like. You can make some comments, but focus them on your experience, not on his performance. For example, “I feel amazing when you ____” instead of, “I wish you’d ____ more.” As for getting feedback, when you’re doing something, just ask, “Does that feel good?” or “Do you like that?” You know your partner: even though he’ll probably say “yes” no matter what, you know which “yes” is genuine.
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Scheduling
You might cringe at the idea, but you should talk to your partner about when and how often you’d like to have sex—otherwise you could play a nightly game of tug-o-war. Your guy might not notice that you never feel like having sex on Thursday evenings, and might continue trying to initiate on those nights, unless you just explain those are very stressful days for you.
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How to talk about it
So that your partner doesn’t continuously put himself in a position to be rejected, and neither do you, talk about what times and under what circumstances you don’t feel like having sex. Also talk about times it’s uncomfortable for you, like when you have relatives visiting or when you’re both in a hurry.
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