We’ve all met that man we knew was all kinds of wrong, but he “loved” so good it felt wrong to be right. You know him. He’s tall, handsome, great teeth, hot smile and smells like do-me-right-now by Dolce & Gabbana. Unfortunately, there isn’t much else to say about him. He doesn’t have a career to brag about, never buys great gifts and has a side chick.
Lust is blind. Love is deaf. Infatuation is crazy. All reasons some of us are still stuck staring across the dinner table at losers. We inadvertently defend them left and right to family and friends, assuring ourselves they don’t really know him when the only person out of the loop is us.
So, how do you know when the guy you’re dating is a bust? Check for these signs:
1. He’s not in school nor does he have a job.
Losers are irresponsible.
2. You spend more money on him than he spends on himself.
A good man doesn’t rely on women to take care of him.
3. He tries to make everything up with sex.
It’s all he can offer, because it’s all he has.
4. Your relationship works on his time.
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Selfishness is an ugly characteristic that doesn’t work in fulfilling relationships.
5. You couldn’t list five thoughtful things he’s said or done in the last month.
He should be happy to be with and make sure you know.
6. He frequently asks to borrow money he doesn’t intend to pay back.
Giving him money won’t solve his money issues. Issues you do not want inherit.
7. He has three or more baby mamas.
Do you want to be next on the list to accidentally get pregnant by a man who is unlikely to commit?
8. He cheats.
Sharing your man is gross. Plus, cheating is dishonest and disrespectful.
9. He watches Adult Videos regularly.
There is something called too much lusting.
10. He wants to move in with you but not pay rent.
Leechy men will leave you crying and broke. He’ll only be there until he takes all of what he wants.
Want to know more about LaShaun Williams? Check out her blog Politically Unapologetic, where she shares thoughts on pop culture, love and life. Follow her on Twitter @itsmelashaun.
