Men and women think differently. We are bound to conflict in romantic relationships. Thus, it has to be understood that disagreements and non-violent arguments will happen and you will have to get over it. Anger takes energy, and it’s easier to just let it go. So, if he’s not cheating with your best friend, try these ideas to show you’re still in love with him:
1. Write him a letter. Putting thoughts on paper can be therapeutic. In writing a letter, you can unload your feelings and express anger without an explosion.
2. Make his favorite meal. Kill your anger with kindness and conjure up something in the kitchen you know he loves.
3. Pull out pictures from the early days of your relationship. Reminiscing on the old (and good) times warms the heart. It reminds you of why you are in the relationship.
4. Read an old birthday card with him. It probably wasn’t homemade, but it’s the thought that counts. Looking back on his thoughtful moments will help you simmer down. He will be smitten that you kept it.
5. Give him a big, bear hug. Don’t say a word. Just wrap your arms around him tightly—and squeeze. The harder you squeeze, the more you release. All he feels is love.
6. Make him breakfast in bed. Cater to him when you and he knows it’s undeserved. Making him feel guilty might make you feel a little better.
7. Keep up conversation. An idle mind is the devil’s playground and angry silence is a minefield. It’s possible to talk yourself out of sweating the small stuff.
8. Go to the gym. Sometimes the best way to love him is to get away and blow off steam productively, like at the gym. Better the barbells than a “situation.”
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