One Foot In The Door And One Foot Out The Other? How To Keep Your Man From Walking

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Relationships are never perfect and, in some instances, there are times when you, or your man, may begin to pull away from one another. Men can be really hard to understand because many of them refuse to be openly emotional and communicative, which really makes keeping a stable and happy relationship that much harder. If you’re finding that your man seems to be slipping through your hands like water or you’ve committed a major offense in the relationship, don’t give up hope just yet. Here are 14 ways to keep your man from walking.

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Don’t pressure him

If he has already told you how he feels, there is no need to pressure him to say anything more. Pressuring a man who is looking to walk away will only make matters worse and, in fact, encourage him to leave. Don’t pressure him into staying and don’t pressure him into saying more than what he already has. Once he expresses how he feels, accept it.

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Communicate how you feel

Once he has said how he feels, you, of course, should do the same. Don’t beg and plead for him to stay and belittle yourself. Instead, say that you acknowledge his feelings and respect how he feels. However, let him know that you still care about him and you are more than willing to talk things through or try to figure out a fix for the problem.

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Trust that he knows best

If you really want to keep your man from walking, not only will you need to acknowledge the fact that he may lose, but you’ll also need to put your trust in him. You’ll need to think, and know that he knows what is best for him, you, and the relationship. Trust that he will be able to make the right decision for everyone involved, even if that decision turns out being the one that you didn’t want or expect.

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Don’t try to control him

Let’s face it, there is no way for you or anyone else to control how your man thinks or feels or the decision that he decides to make. Don’t use words or actions to try to control this man. Instead, let him decide where things go from here. Focus on the things that you can control and let this man figure himself out. Trying to control things that are out of your reach will only make you feel more frustrated and hopeless. One of the best things you can do to keep a man from walking is to let him do him and not try to control him.

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Stay positive

How many times have you had one of your best girlfriends call you on the phone and tell you a funny story that automatically made you smile, even though you hadn’t smiled all day? Remember that emotions are contagious. Even though it’s hard to be happy and positive at this phase of the game, try your best to be positive, and hopefully your emotions will rub off onto him. Positivity can do a lot in helping to keep your man from walking.

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Don’t argue with him

Arguing in order to keep your man from walking won’t make a difference in the long run. In fact, arguing with him might make things even worse. He’s already feeling down and so are you, so what good, if anything, could come out of arguing? As much as you want to yell and scream because you’re frustrated, angry, and sad, try to express this in other ways instead of arguing.

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Take the pressure off of him

When most men say that they want to walk away, it is because they feel pressured. When a man reaches the point that he wants to leave and avoid commitment, he’s clearly feeling all sorts of pressure. Instead of arguing, take the pressure off of him and tell him you respect his decision either way.

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Step back from things

Apart from taking the pressure off of him, take a step back from things altogether. Once you take a step back and admit that you’re okay with his feelings, most men will honestly start to switch their thinking. Instead of thinking about how he wants to leave, he’ll start to think about why and how your feelings have changed. A man’s ego heavily relies on his woman having true feelings for him.

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Don’t become desperate

Crying, pleading, and begging doesn’t do any good for you or for your man. It will only make you sadder and it’ll only make him feel a lot more pressure. As much as you want to keep your man from walking, going into desperation mode won’t help. Instead of breaking down and allowing yourself to fall into a downward spiral, keep your chin up and accept things for what they are, even if they aren’t what you want them to be.

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Go on with your life

Though you may really want to focus as much energy and time as you can in efforts to keep your man from leaving, it’s really important that you’re able to continue living your own life. Do things you enjoy doing. Go out and spend time with friends. There is no need to put your life on hold in order because your man isn’t unsure of what he wants anymore. Enjoy your life with or without him.

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Talk about things with your closest friend

Once you have expressed how you feel to your man, it’s likely that you have a lot more to say. Instead of keeping everything inside, talk to a friend about everything you’re feeling and thinking. Talk about your anger and your sadness and see what your friend thinks. Things become a lot easier when you can express how you’re feeling and what you’re thinking.

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Remember that this problem isn’t yours to solve

As much as you want to keep your man from walking away, one important thing to remember is that this isn’t your problem to solve. While you may want to do all that you can in order to make him happier and to make him stay, this problem is his alone. You just need to give him the space and time that he needs in order to come up with a solution to fix a problem that he created.

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