We Don’t Want No Scrubs! 10 Signs He Is A Loser

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1. He Has No Job

If he ain’t had a job since a job had him, then RUN! Of course, there are stipulations to this. If he doesn’t have a job because he’s unable to find one in the current economic climate, but has a source of income from somewhere (and is legal because…I mean, let’s not go there), then that’s acceptable. I’m not talking about the guy who’s sending out 100 resumes a day trying to find something in his field. I’m talking about Pookie who says he can’t get a job because “the man wants to hold him down.” And no, playing video games and selling weed is not what one would consider a job.

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2. He Borrows Money From You Constantly

And because he has no job, he wants to “hold” a few dollars til next week. Next week comes, and he wants to “hold” another couple dollars to hold him over. Next thing you know, he’s on your bankroll. If you find yourself buying things for or giving money to one of these people, stop it! A person like this is a master at making others feel sorry for him. Just because he can put it down in the bedroom doesn’t mean you have to pay for it. Sex is free – or at least it should be – and any money given to him is money thrown away. He doesn’t appreciate it, he expects it. Don’t do it.

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3. He Lives At Home With His Parents

He lives off, not with, his mama and daddy. Guess what? He’s asking them for money too. If he does happen to have a job while living at home, he’s not saving money to buy a house. His main priority is to save money so he can buy rims for that car that sits out front that he can’t afford to drive.

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4. He’s a Druggie

This guy has a drug habit that he says is recreational, but somehow all of your money goes toward his recreation. Meanwhile, your behind can’t afford to eat from the dollar menu at Mickey D’s. Hide your purse and tell Smokey to kick rocks.

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5. He Has No License or Means of Transportation

He doesn’t have a license because it was suspended “over some bull-isht” and he doesn’t want to take the bus because he’s somehow “too good” for that.  Tell this guy to scram. NO, you can’t borrow my ride and NO, I’m not driving you around. Get a Metro card and keep it moving.

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6. He Has No “Real” Residence

This scrub doesn’t have a “real” place to live. He has no known address and no phone number. He stays on one side of town with his “peoples,” but also “crashes” on the other side of town from time to time. He’s basically homeless, and he just shows up when he feels like it. This type of loser will try to stay at your house for several nights…cuz he “misses you.” Whatever. Lock your doors.

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7. He Goes MIA…Often

Along those lines, he tells you that he loves you and makes you feel like you’re the most important person in the world…yet will disappear on your A$$ for days on end without a phone call. You can’t call him because he ain’t got no damn phone! When he does finally get in contact with you, he acts like it is all good and provides no excuse for his disappearing act. You know why? Because he was probably “staying” at his other girl’s house.

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8. Sex is All He Has to Offer

Now, if you’ve managed to give the scrub some before actually finding out he’s a scrub, here’s where it gets tricky. Scrubs can usually PUT. IT. DOWN in the bedroom. Why? Well, since they have no job, they have at least 8 hours a day to perfect their stroke. There’s always some other chick out there that’s not working either, so they get it in with each other everyday and practice makes perfect. Usually sex is the only thing a scrub can bring to the table. Women who are getting their backs blown out realize that’s all he’s got going on, so they try to find something salvageable about his personality in order to justify being with him. But that’s like trying to find a treasure in a trashcan – you’re wasting your time.

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9. He’s a Criminal

If there’s a warrant out for his arrest, this is a guy you should walk away from – no matter what sob story he gives you. I’m not talking about a guy who has paid his dues to society and is reformed. I’m talking about the guy who thinks robbing liquor stores or selling drugs is his job. There’s also the guy who makes a career out of being in and out of jail. If you meet a guy who tells you that he “caught a case,” be OUT! Run as fast as you can. Do not pass go!

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10. He Has No Ambition

What makes MOST guys who are losers a loser is the fact that he has no intention of ever bettering himself. There’s always an excuse as to why he isn’t or hasn’t accomplished anything. “The man” is holding him down. He would have gone to the pros, but he “messed up his knee.” He was “bout to” go for that job, but he missed the bus. Excuses, excuses, excuses. Yes, racism and circumstances can knock a man down. But what separates a king from a caveman is how he overcomes those obstacles and rises to the challenge. Alpha males have a competitive nature, which is why they tend to gravitate towards sports, politics, war, the stock market and so on and so forth. These type of men see obstacles as challenges to overcome, not excuses for mediocrity. Stepping up to a challenge builds strength and character, and losers know nothing about that.

I don’t think these traits needed to be spelled out for most men and women, but sometimes we women need to sit down and ask ourselves what we really want in a man. What is he doing with his life? Is he disciplined? Is he educating himself? Is he proactive? What is he passionate about? It’s not about money or power, but integrity and a desire to be a better person everyday. That goes for men AND women.