We all know how difficult dating can be, but is it really? What may seem like an “it’s complicated” status on Facebook could really just be in your face. We’re here to show you when a dude is digging you and when he’s really not. It’s that simple. Here are 10 ways to tell that a man is really not interested.
1) He calls you about as much as Barack Obama does
We all know that Barack is probably not going to call you. Well, neither is that man you’ve been waiting for. If you’re the one doing all the calling or he doesn’t have much to talk to you about, then chances are that you’re just not the one.
2) You only know about his relatives in theory
No man will introduce a woman to his mama if she isn’t special. If it’s been more than three months and there’s been no convo about meeting mama and daddy, then you’ll probably never meet them. Oh yeah, you’ll probably never walk down the aisle with him either.
3) He tends to visit after Jay Leno goes off
Men who visit in the middle of the night are either coming to rob you or have sex with you. There’s rarely any in-between. If your man becomes a vampire who can only come out at night, then you may not want to let him keep sucking your blood.
4) He doesn’t care if you come or go
A man can feel safe with a woman he doesn’t care about. The safety comes from knowing that he won’t be hurt if she tries to leave. If your man seems to care less about whether you’re dating other guys or considering leaving “the relationship,” there’s a good chance that he doesn’t care much about being with you.
5) He rarely makes time for you unless he has “special needs”
People make time for things that matter to them. If a man makes time to talk to you regularly, go out with you or spend time with your family, then he is clearly into you. If he’s always too busy doing things more important than talking to you, then you should get that message. I don’t care if he is President of the United States. Even Bill Clinton made time for Monica Lewinsky, so your man can make time for you.
6) He hasn’t bought you anything except a nicer g-string
Men spend money on women they like. If he can’t buy you something, then chances are that he’s not interested. But be careful of the baller though, where money is no object. Men like that are used to spending a little change to get some booty.
7) He only observes your kids from a distance
A man who doesn’t like you is not going to get emotionally attached to your kids. Kids are cute, cuddly and fun. That kind of emotional baggage cramps the style of the average rolling stone.
8) He never talks to you about the future
He won’t discuss the future with you because there is no future to discuss. Why would he talk about something that doesn’t exist? Don’t push the issue, but simply ask him to go with you to look at houses or to talk about your joint career moves. See how he responds. If he seems disinterested and talks about your life as if it has nothing to do with his own, then you’ve got a problem.
9) He doesn’t care what you think
Every man wants to be the boss of everything he does. He likes to pretend that women can’t control his mind and that he’s the one who’s running things. But a man in love buckles a bit to the woman he cares about. If she gets mad, he tries to find out why. If she doesn’t speak to him, he worries if he did something wrong. If you get mad or stop speaking to your man, and he doesn’t seem to give a Shyte, then you’re not the woman he cares about.
10) Does he invite you into his space or does he always come into yours?
The eternal ‘playa’ who doesn’t really want you will usually be like a roaming dog, going from house to house to get what he needs. He doesn’t want any of his women coming into his house, answering his phone, or going through his stuff. The only woman who gets those privileges is the one he really wants. If he is “entering you” both literally and figuratively but not allowing you to enter into his world, that usually means he’s controlling the situation, cheating and not taking you all that seriously. In other words, you are one of his many, many women.
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