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Nobody likes to admit when they’re not over their ex. In fact, people will insist they are over their ex by collecting evidence, facts, and photos like a court case to say, “SEE! I don’t care about him/her anymore!” which only makes you think they’re definitely not over them. So if you’re wondering if the guy you’re currently seeing is holding onto some feelings for the woman before you, you’ll have to do some research of your own. Here are signs to look out for.

The Facebook photos are still up

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The Facebook photos are still up

It’s true that it’s painful to take down all those happy, smiling photos of you and an ex. But to be clear: it’s only really painful when you’re still not over the person. So, if your guy still has all those cuddly/vacation albums up of him and his last girlfriend, that’s because clicking that delete button feels like a dagger to his heart.

He finds reasons to talk to her

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He finds reasons to talk to her

He needs to ask her what the name of a restaurant is they went to, so he can take you, or he needs to pass on a message to her from a common friend. But Yelp exists for a reason, so you can look up your own restaurants, and that common friend has Facebook. They can pass on the message themselves. Someone who is truly over his ex thinks of excuses not to talk to her, not to talk to her.

He talks poorly of her new boyfriend

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He talks poorly of her new boyfriend

There are only two reasons for a guy to trash talk his ex’s new guy: 1) To make himself feel better (in which case, the woman he is currently seeing does not give him enough of a confidence boost i.e. he is still into his ex) or 2) He cares so much about her, he wants to only see her with the best (in which case, he is still into her again). He shouldn’t care that much about her happiness anymore.

He knows who her new boyfriend is

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He knows who her new boyfriend is

Why does he even know who his ex is dating now in the first place? The only way he could know is by asking her directly—meaning they are still speaking so he probably still has feelings for her—or he went through the trouble of stalking her Facebook/asking common friends.

He’s doing everything she hated

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He’s doing everything she hated

He’s eating junk food, drinking more, sleeping late, and doing it all with a vengeful look on his face as he says, “Now that my ex isn’t around, I can do whatever I want!” Trying to spite someone, and trying to impress someone, dance along the same fine line. And both mean you still care what a person thinks about you.

He’s blocked her in every medium

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He’s blocked her in every medium

Facebook, email, Twitter, phone—he’s made it so that he has absolutely no way of contacting her, and visa versa. Distancing oneself is important, but if a guy feels the need to put up an iron wall between him and the ex, it’s because he has no self-control in terms of contacting her. That wall isn’t for her; it’s for him.

He can’t do anything that reminds him of her

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He can’t do anything that reminds him of her

He refuses to go to the restaurant they used to eat at together, he slams the radio off when a song comes on she would always sing, he’s stopped jogging because that’s what they used to do together. If so many activities are still associated with her, he’s not over her.