Man Up! Signs Your Man Might Be a Bit of a Punk

1. He Gossips

Nothing is worse than a man who runs his mouth, especially when it comes to sex or relationships. Studies have shown that 55% of men tend to gossip just as much, if not MORE, than women do – and the main topics of discussion are usually women, sexual conquests, colleagues and family feuds. Men who start rumors and spread others’ business usually do so in order to boost their egos, so if they have nothing else going on in their lives or they’re insecure, they gossip to make themselves seem more important. If you run into a man who has loose lips about any and everything, especially things that are intimate in nature, turn the other way and leave his punk A$$ alone.

2. He Complains

There is nothing wrong with venting or letting someone know you’re angry or upset. But a man who constantly complains isn’t looking to solve his problems – he just wants to complain about them. Women, by nature, aren’t considered problem-solvers. Men are. Women tend to talk out their problems with girlfriends, looking for a compassionate shoulder to cry on and a listening ear. But men, on the other hand, usually hear our complaints and try to offer a solution because as men, that’s what they’re conditioned to do. If a man would rather complain about his job or coworkers rather than look for a new job or complain about his ex-girlfriend rather than move on, chances are he’s a beta male who seeks attention by being a cry baby and would rather take the easy way out and complain about his problems rather than eliminating them altogether.

3. He Constantly Seeks Approval

This is the guy who can’t get dressed in the morning without asking you if his tie matches his suit or what shoes he should wear. Don’t get me wrong, it’s one thing for a man to want his woman’s opinion so that he can take it into consideration, especially if he’s trying to look good for her. But if he asks for his woman’s opinion on EVERY choice he should make, chances are she won’t feel secure in the relationship because the man she’s with isn’t comfortable making his own decisions. Men who are strong are secure in their own decisions, and for the most part, their choices are the ones that matter most. This isn’t to say that he’s selfish and inconsiderate. But a man who constantly seeks approval from you has no sense of self confidence and you won’t feel comfortable relying on him to make a major decision that would affect you and your relationship.

4. He Does Whatever You Say

If a man is constantly seeking your approval, it’s pretty safe to say that he will probably do whatever you tell him to do.  While the bossiest of women will seek men they can run all over, deep down, she will never respect him. Some men need a woman who will tell them what to do, but most women want to be with a man to whom they can submit (I know you all are going to kill me for that one), who they trust to be the head of the household and who they feel will protect them. A strong woman still feels the power of her feminism, yet doesn’t feel the need to be the man andthe woman of the relationship. An alpha male won’t even be attracted to a woman who tries to boss him around, because it won’t feel natural to him. So if your man is comfortable allowing you to take the lead in the relationship, he is not a man who will ultimately take care of you.

5. He’s a Mama’s Boy

There is nothing wrong with a man having a close, loving relationship with his mother. Studies have shown that men who have great relationships with their mothers tend to make great husbands because they’re more in touch with their emotions and have a healthy respect for women. But if your man can’t make a decision without consulting his mother first or can’t let go of the apron strings in order to take care of himself or his own family, then you don’t have a man for a partner, you have a child. If he still lives at home, she still does his laundry, cooks for him and he starts every sentence with “my mom says,” then he hasn’t grown up yet and you’ll wind up raising him like a son rather than living with him as a wife. He’s a man-child and if he’s incapable of taking care of himself, he definitely won’t be able to take care of you. You’ll just be another mother to him.

6. He Can’t Say No

This guy is a pushover – typically known as “Mr.Nice Guy.” I’m not talking about the man who helps friends in times of need. I’m talking about the guy who wants to be liked so much that he lets people take advantage of him because they know he won’t say no to their requests. A man stands firm in his values and priorities and makes time to tend to them. He says no to things that conflict with what’s important to him, even if that means he won’t always be liked. But what these so-called “nice guys” don’t realize is that it’s possible to have a backbone and still say no without people thinking he’s a jerk.

7. His Word is NOT His Bond

It’s almost impossible to respect a man who doesn’t keep his word. A man who is always talking a good game but never follows through, isn’t much of a man at all. Women respect men who don’t just talk about what they’re going to do, they respect the silent “assassin.” You know, the ones who get the job done without ever saying a word. A true man is consistent in word and deed, and if you can’t count on a man to do what he says he’s going to do, you’ll have a relationship based on broken promises and disappointment. True men have integrity and honor.

8. He Never Pays For Anything

Alpha men want to take care of women and provide for his family. A man who is comfortable allowing a woman to pay his bills or for all of their dates will never make for a good partner and he will never learn to be responsible for himself or anyone else. Some women are comfortable controlling a man with money, and feel that because she’s paying for everything, he is bound to be loyal to her. But that’s simply not true. Not only will she never truly respect him, he will never truly respect her either, because he will think she feels she needs to “buy” his love rather than him giving it freely.

9. He Is a Child Among Men

If you’re not sure if your man is a punk, the easiest way to tell is to put him in a room with men who emit true masculine energy. Does he command a room or does he cower in the corner among men who are strong and sure of themselves? Does he make eye contact and seem focused or is he scattered? Does he constantly put others down in order to make himself feel better about himself or is he too honorable and centered to convey such immature behavior? True men aren’t afraid to engage with others and draw attention to themselves (not in a brash way) because they’re confident and have nothing to hide. Weak men shy away from attention because they’re afraid their weaknesses will be exposed. There’s a difference between the strong, silent type and a man who’s hiding. Learn to screen them out so you know if you’re dealing with a little boy, or a man you can respect.