Every time I hear a guy refer to a woman as “high maintenance” I serve up a side eye that is filled with an ounce of “boy please” and “go sit down somewhere”. Even when women call other women “high maintenance” it annoys me. I guess it’s the words high and maintenance that gets under my skin, because it makes a person sound like they are difficult to handle or require special attention and care as if they were a product not a person. Of course this name sake is hardly ever in the context of something positive, making the situation even worse, but why does being “high maintenance” have to be a bad thing? Or is it just because most people can’t handle anything above the average?
I’ll admit I’ve been coined “high maintenance” by many. Why? Probably because I like nice things, I don’t settle for anything less than the best and I’m a woman who knows exactly what she wants and is not afraid to ask for it. But does that make me a bad person? I beg to differ. I believe everyone has gotten the meaning of “high maintenance” confused with low tolerance. Some women simply have a low tolerance for B.S. and will not accept mediocrity. Unfortunately, some men are not equipped to handle a lady of this caliber and choose to label her as a diva, gold digger or simply – “high maintenance”.
There is nothing wrong with a woman having standards, a clear understanding of what she wants, and expectancy for nothing but the best from any man who wants to play in her world. Think about it, if your “maintenance” wasn’t “high” would you really want it to be “low”? Like I said, anytime there is a “high” there is a “low” and in this case the “low” is usually low self-esteem on the man’s part and low tolerance from the woman.
Anyone who can’t handle a little bit of ‘extra work’ is one to question. The person who usually complains of someone being “high maintenance” is most likely not as confident or secure with them self as you would like; therefore they will try to make you feel as if you’re doing something wrong. Everyone’s average is different making it sometimes difficult to find the perfect match for you. But never allow anyone’s opinion of you change your ways or wants. Remember, there is nothing wrong with being “high maintenance”, and always keeping your head high.
Have you ever been labeled high maintenance? How did you feel about it?
