Low Self Esteem? 14 Ways It Can Ruin A Relationship

Though being overly cocky and full of yourself is never a good thing, the opposite side of the spectrum isn’t any better. Low self-esteem isn’t just unhealthy for your well being, it can also cause your relationships to suffer, which can further lessen your self-esteem. Here are 14 ways that low self-esteem can ruin a relationship.

It’s unattractive, to say the least.

Just as women want a confident and self-assured man, men want the exact same. There’s nothing worse than a woman who lacks confidence.

It creates higher levels of stress.

The lower your self-esteem, the more stress you can expect. When you’re stressed, you will easily stress your significant other, which puts strain on the relationship.

There’s a higher chance of constant misunderstandings.

The inability to express what you need, no matter how big or small it is, can cause frustration in both you and your boyfriend. This can lead to confusion, hurt, and misunderstanding on both ends.

The true you may never come to surface.

Without high self-esteem, it’s easy for you to simply hide and keep your true self away from others. Your boyfriend wants to know the real you; vulnerabilities and all.

A lack of confidence gets old quickly.

If you’re constantly putting yourself down and feeling lesser than others, especially girls, it’s likely that your boyfriend will get tired of it quickly. Your lack of confidence could cause him to find a new woman.

You’re more likely to be a high-maintenance girl.

Guys like low-maintenance girls but if you’re lacking in the self-esteem department, you can count on your boyfriend complaining about your high-maintenance ways. This puts him on eggshells and can create a relationship full of unnecessary drama.

You have to love yourself to love others.

Though it’s a bit of a cliche phrase, it’s true that in order to love someone else, you have to first love yourself. A relationship can easily crumble if you can’t first accept and love who you are.

Self-destruction can lead to relationship destruction.

Usually when someone has low self-esteem, they don’t feel as if they deserve to be treated well. If your boyfriend is respectful and nice, you may find that you push such sentiments and actions away, which can make him feel unwanted.

Low self-esteem influences your mood negatively.

When you don’t see yourself in a positive light, those thoughts will definitely escape in your moods, emotions, and temper. If you hate who you are and how you look, you won’t be quite happy. And when you aren’t happy, your partner isn’t either.

A suffering sex life

Low self-esteem definitely negatively impacts your sex and love life. If you’re uncomfortable with yourself in the mirror, you won’t be comfortable stark naked in front of your boyfriend. And let’s face it; we all need it at some point in time. Intimacy is a factor in a healthy relationship.

Your boyfriend becomes your constant praiser.

While it’s never a bad thing to have a boyfriend randomly compliment you, it can become a problem when the compliments and praise are needed endlessly. This makes compliments and praise a lot less special and it puts a lot of pressure on your boyfriend to continuously try to boost your self-esteem.

Lack of communication.

If you have low self-esteem, you’re probably quiet, shy, and introverted, and while some guys like quiet and shy girls, combined, all of this usually leads to a lack of communication. Communication is fundamental in a successful relationship.

Accusations galore

Since low self-esteem girls are more likely to feel less pretty, less skinny, and less perfect than the next girl, it’s not unlikely for her to blame her boyfriend for eyeing another chick, flirting, or even cheating. False accusations can definitely ruin a relationship.

An overall negative aura

To sum it up, having low self-esteem and getting into a relationship is pretty much self-defeating. Men don’t want to be in a relationship that is demanding, negative, and a lot of guess work.

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