Do You Have Pretty Girl Problems?

1. You Think All Men Are Intimidated By You

Most beautiful women like to think that the ONLY reason a man never asks them out is because men are intimidated by their beauty. It never occurs to these women that while they may be attractive, maybe they’re just not that interesting. Sure, you may be stunning, and some men might believe you’re out of their league…but since when has that ever stopped a man before? Men approach women who appear…approachable. Most women who think they’re too hot for most men have an air of arrogance that surrounds them, and men can see it a mile away. Women with Pretty Girl Syndrome don’t even know how to strike up a conversation with men in order to invite a man to ask them out. There is a way of being comfortable in your own skin that is attractive that has nothing to do with how you look physically. It’s an attitude, it’s in your body language – it’s an energy you can dial up, dial down or shut off altogether. Either you have it or you don’t, and ironically, women with Pretty Girl Syndrome can’t tap into that inner feminine power, they can only sit there and look pretty…and shut men out completely. Men are attracted to confidence, which shouldn’t be confused with conceit. Being deemed beautiful is not just about your face, your hair, or your body parts. Physical charisma is also in how you carry yourself…some would call it swag. When you have a way of being, a presence that grabs someone’s attention and holds it, men will want to come closer and get to know you.

2. You Think All Women Are Jealous Of You

“She’s just jealous of me” is usually the refrain heard over and over again from women who have no female friends. It’s an easy out, a cop-out really, and presupposes that the ONLY reason a woman might not like you is because she wishes she could be like you – not because you’re an evil Itchbay or a moron. Claiming other women are jealous of them gives women with Pretty Girl Syndrome an excuse to NOT have to look in the mirror and take a hard look themselves because they might discover their character flaws that make them unlikable. The brutal truth may be that you  don’t interact well with others, or you’ve spent so much time getting your hair done and making sure your makeup is perfect that you neglected to develop a great personality or a sharp intellect. Women don’t hate women because they’re beautiful – otherwise, magazines like Vogue, Cosmopolitan and Essence wouldn’t be so popular since they’re filled with gorgeous women. We all appreciate beauty and tips on how to make ourselves look our best, but beauty alone doesn’t make other women like or dislike you. Being a trustworthy, loyal and caring person is how you make friends, not how you look. If you have NO female friends, most likely it’s not because you just look TOO good in jeans. Beautiful women make and maintain close friendships all the time…so if you can’t seem to do that, maybe you need to do some soul-searching. It could be that the insecurity you sense on other women is simply your own insecurity….projected.

3. If You DO Have Friends, YOU’RE the “Pretty One”

Most pretty people like to think that they’re the most attractive of their friends, and rarely want to befriend women who they deem are just as, if not more so, beautiful than they are. There’s the “funny friend,” the “fat friend,” the “smart friend” and the “beautiful friend” – and the woman with Pretty Girl Syndrome has no problem with being labeled the “beautiful friend” since they base their worth on their looks. Also, these pretty girls are usually stumped when their seemingly “less attractive” friends get more attention than they do, or who attract men and have boyfriends while they’re wallowing in their lonely, pretty girl misery. What they fail to realize is that while their friends may not be as attractive as they are (in their mind), men are just as attracted to women who can string a few intelligent sentences together, or who can make them laugh. Also, beauty and sex appeal are not the same thing – you CAN have one without the other. So while you may be cute in the face, your friends may ooze sexuality despite not having Halle Berry features or who can “smize” like Tyra Banks. Then there’s that whole “beauty in the eye of the beholder thing.” Women tend to judge other women based on WOMEN’S ideas of beauty that are fed to us daily in the media and mainstream magazines. We rarely stop to think about and judge each other based on what MEN think…so even though your friends may not be as pretty as YOU think they are, trust me when I say, there’s a man out there who thinks they’re HOT.

4. You Feel a Sense of Entitlement

We all like perks, and give me something for free ANY day. But while most of us feel lucky if we get a free sample or extra cheese on our Whopper, women with Pretty Girl Syndrome feel entitled to EVERYTHING, simply because they’re pretty. And by everything, I mean free clothes, free jewelry, gifts, food, a job, a man, you name it. Pretty girls are used to getting attention, and have probably had a few men trick on them from time to time, so this becomes the norm for them. If they’re not careful, they can become labeled a gold digger, trading their beauty for wealth. And if beauty is their only asset, they expect it to get them everything they desire, whether they deserve it or not. For example, if a pretty woman is out on an interview, and a man is doing the interviewing, she probably feels she’s a shoe-in for the job simply because she assumes he finds her attractive. While studies have shown that pretty people tend to get hired more frequently than their less attractive counterparts with comparable credentials, nowadays you have to be more than beautiful to market yourself, and a pretty face isn’t always enough to get the job. In addition to being beautiful, you must be smart, witty, aggressive and relatable. No one likes a dumb piece of eye candy and you don’t get everything you want simply because you have a big butt and a smile.

5. You Believe Your Life is Cursed By Your Good Looks

Most beautiful people who have not accomplished much outside of looking good tend to blame their lack of success on their beauty. Vain, frivolous folks can’t find fault with themselves, so any reasons for their failures MUST be external – blaming jealousy, backstabbing and a harsh world with a vendetta against pretty people as the reason for their lackluster lives. Women with Pretty Girl Syndrome are socialized differently, as in constantly being desired, coddled or who are not forced to do anything other than be pretty, so they rarely are expected to actually do or learn anything, or work hard – thus their lack of accomplishments. Of course, they don’t realize this, they only know that the only possible reason for their shortcomings must be that they’re too beautiful. While not all attractive women have Pretty Girl Syndrome, those who do usually fail to realize it until someone points out that simply being beautiful isn’t enough to get by in this world. We all know someone like this, and if you’re the “pretty friend,” it could quite possibly be you.