10 Things He'll Discover About You When You Move In

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We all know you gotta keep your “do” did, so wrapping your hair in your fave silk scarf or doo-rag may be non-negotiable. If you have a problem with your man seeing you like this, then you may want to invest in some satin pillow cases to keep your tresses from getting tussled. As for your “Granny panties” – get rid of them. If you can’t part with them because they’re just too comfy, or you save them for that time of the month, then keep them in the back of your lingerie drawer…and never leave them soaking in the sink. That’s just tacky.

You use your treadmill as a closet while he irons and folds his boxers, or you’re constantly tripping over his boots while he sees it as no big deal. If you both are polar opposites as it pertains to cleanliness, this may be a source of contention in your relationship. Make sure you both discuss chores before moving in together (will he do the laundry and you do the dishes?) to avoid confusion, unnecessary arguments and a messy house.

If you’re a sentimental, keepsake hoarder, make sure you get rid of all old love letters, poems, birthday cards and boxes filled with photos and other sappy crap from past relationships – because trust me, he WILL find them. Sure, the only photos of your amazing vacation to the Caribbean all have your exes face plastered in them, but it’s not worth holding on to if your man objects. Call it silly or immature, but if you’ve moved on, you should part ways with these things as well. If you MUST hold on to them, keep them at your parents’ house, not in yours. Make new memories with your boo instead of holding on to old ones. If your live-in love is the love of your life, you won’t need that old stuff anyway.

Probably one of the FIRST things he will discover about you is your bathroom etiquette. Do you pee with the door open, or barge in on him while he’s…uh…handling his business? Some men have a “closed-door policy” when it comes to showering, shaving and shi…you get my point. Or you may not want him chatting you up while you sit there tinkling. Have a light conversation about proper bathroom behavior so that it doesn’t become and issue at the most inopportune time. Oh…and you need to be VERY OKAY with flatulence…yours AND his.

It’s very easy to order nothing but salads when you’re out on a date, only to binge on chips and ice cream when you get home because you didn’t want to seem like a pig at dinner. But once you move in together, he’ll discover ALL of your fattening snacks hiding in the pantry. Also, once you get comfortable, you may start eating on the couch in front of the tv, or in bed, allowing crumbs to fall and juice to spill all willy nilly.  Make sure you’re really comfortable eating in front of him…like REALLY EATING. And be prepared to be annoyed by his slurping and burping as well.

Once you shack up, you may want to invest in a DVR if you haven’t already, because unless there are multiple tv’s and cable boxes in the crib, there WILL be a fight for the remote. Make sure you both understand and RESPECT the need for (any of) The Real Housewives and SportsCenter in each other’s lives. If you’re not cool watching endless innings of the Yankee game, keep in mind that he probably can’t stand NeNe, Wendy Williams or ANY of the ladies of The View either.

If you’ve never had an overnight visit with your boo before, he may be in for a rude awakening…literally! If you snore, tell him beforehand so that you can discuss how to deal with it (earplugs, cracking open a window, rolling you on your side, etc.) Perhaps you only snore when you’re exhausted, or when it’s allergy season or when you’re sick. If he snores as well, then this may be no big deal. But if he can’t sleep because you’re calling the cows home, this needs to be addressed. While snoring may not be a deal breaker, sleep IS important…so workout a solution so you both can get good rest.

Before you all actually co-habitate, you may want to take inventory of your clothes, shoes and handbags – because if you’re a shoe Slore, he WILL say something about it…over…and over…and over again. You both will be sharing space, so if he only gets the corner of a sock drawer while you require a walk-in, you might want to scale back and see what you can donate to Good Will – and the man has somewhere to put his stuff.

You can usually hide the fact that you’re behind in your rent or didn’t pay the cable bill when you live alone; but once you share expenses with someone else, that’ll be a different story. If he’s more financially responsible than you are, he’ll quickly figure out that all those 800 numbers on the caller ID are not your best girlfriends calling to check up on you, but rather bill collectors looking for their dough. Conversely, if you’re better at handling money than he is, you may suggest that you create a joint bank account in which you will be responsible for paying the household bills. Make sure you have a serious conversation about finances, debt, savings and sticking to a realistic budget.

Some people think that moving in together means you’ll be getting all the sex you want. Sure, that may be true in the beginning when you first move in, but after the “honeymoon” period is over and you settle into your day-to-day routine, he may discover that you’re not the insatiable sex kitten he once thought you were. You may also find out that there are some nights where he’d rather watch the game than jump your bones – and there’s nothing necessarily wrong with that. Your libido will ebb and flow, so think about how often you both want to have sex daily..or weekly…and try to stick to that agreement – even if it means scheduling it in. That may not sound romantic or spontaneous, but making it a priority to spend intimate time together is imperative for the health of your relationship. Happy homemaking…now get busy!