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Something both men and women have in common when it comes to love is that, they don’t want to know the truth. We’re willing to turn our brains off before we’re finished thinking something through because we don’t want to come to an unpleasant conclusion. It’s a major shame because face it: the events of life usually force you to come to those conclusions anyways. If you would have forced yourself to face them on your own, you could avoid a lot of struggle.
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If I text him, he won’t like me
Don’t lie: you’ve thought this. You don’t know that you’ve thought this, but why else would you hesitate for one second before texting a guy—whether it’s after the first date or the first year of dating? You worry you’ll come off as clingy, aggressive or that he’ll get scared away. But think about that: one little text is going to say all that? Nuh uh. If a man gets scared off after one text, that text was just the straw that broke the camel’s back. If you’re nervous that one text will do all that, you subconsciously know that you were already acting clingy or aggressive for quite some time leading up. Now, if you haven’t been acting those ways, then send the damn text! If the guy likes you, he’ll welcome it!
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If I tell him I found the email, he won’t trust me
You found a flirty or possibly unfaithful email, text or voice mail. But you don’t want to tell your man because then he’ll know you went through his things. Um…hello! He cheated on you! What’s really going on here is that you don’t want to end things, and the fact that, as far as your man knows, you still don’t know about his infidelity, gives you the option to be weak and stay with an unfaithful man all because you’re afraid of being alone.
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If he got a girlfriend, we wouldn’t be friends
So, you’re in a relationship but you’ve also got this one male friend. You tell your boyfriend it’s totally cool—he’s just a friend. But ask yourself this question: if that friend got into a serious relationship, would you see each other as much? Would you even still be friends? Would you be jealous….?! You probably won’t honestly answer that third question; but if the answer to the first two is “no,” then sexual tension, attraction and the “possibility” of getting together are the links between you and that male “friend” of yours. And that’s messed up that you keep him around when you have a boyfriend!
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If he started seeing someone else, I’d be hurt
You think you’re keeping it casual. You only see each other once a week. He usually won’t go with you to friend’s parties, work parties—things that would make you seem “couply”—but you say you’re cool with it. You say you’re happy with how things are. But, if he began seeing someone else, you would be hurt. And, you would not see anyone else right now. Hmm. Doesn’t really sound like you’re happy with keeping things casual. You’re just lucky that no one else has come along yet to highlight that to you, so you’re living in blissful ignorance.
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I’m just keeping him around until I meet someone else
Another point on the casual thing: you’ve got this guy who you can call up just about any time and sleep with him. Maybe hang out a little too. But you say he’s just there until someone else comes along. Think about it: if you already have a man who you know at the end of your night out, you can call up and he’ll make you feel good, make you feel sexay, sleep with you and cuddle with you, why would you even trouble yourself with trying to impress or get to know new men while out? You won’t. You subconsciously lean on your booty call. But, that’s not a boyfriend. It’s just a temporary fix.
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Nothing bad will happen as long as I’m there
Your boyfriend is going on a trip? He’s going to a bar? He’s going to a party where an ex is? You go along because “Nothing will happen so long as I’m there.” So…what you’re saying is, something would happen if you weren’t there! You may think, “That’s okay, because I will be there.” Great, so you have to never leave this guy’s side for the rest of your life. Look: a bad guy who just hasn’t had the chance to be bad is still a bad guy.
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