Signs He's Preparing To Pop The Question!

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You’ve been with your man for a couple of years now, and perhaps the topic of marriage has crept into the conversation a time or two. He’s stated he wants to get married (to you), and you’re both on the same page, but you have no idea when the proposal is coming…if at all. While some men avoid the “M” word like the plague, others are simply waiting for the right time to pop the question. After all, this will probably be the most important question he asks in his life, so he’ll want to make sure he’s ready and that the timing is right. If you think he’s acting weird, or that he might not ever propose at all, let’s try to decipher his behavior by finding clues that he’s finally going to put a ring on it.

He’s Acting Weird, Nervous or Freaked Out.

I find that most men don’t know how to act when they’re about to propose. Jitters, uncertainty, anxiety – they all come into play when a man is about to make arguably the most important decision of his life. He may become a little more secretive because he’s making plans behind your back, or he may even appear more needy. After all, no man will propose unless he’s SURE you’re going to say yes, so if he is constantly telling you he loves you only for you to assure him that you love him back, cut him a break. He just needs time to get his mind right and his weight up to ask you to be his wife.

He’s Creeping Through Your Jewelry Box

This might be an obvious sign, but if he doesn’t know your ring size, he may start snooping around your jewelry box to get an idea. Don’t be surprised if one of the rings you barely wear turns up missing. He could also be trying to get an idea of your taste – princess cut, emerald cut, a solitaire? Not all men are clever enough to ask your sister, mother or a close girlfriend what type of ring you might like, or he may not want to clue them in. If you have an extensive jewelry collection, expect him to pay more attention to it if he wants to go ring shopping in the near future.

He Talks Marriage More

As stated before, if a man is a commitment phobe (or doesn’t think that you are the One), he will avoid the topic of marriage at all costs. But if your man is open to the possibility of marriage, he’ll talk about it from time to time. As the relationship progresses, the topic of marriage will creep up more and more in the conversation as he discovers that you are definitely the one for him. He won’t avoid the subject, he’ll actually initiate…and welcome it.

Weddings Don’t Freak Him Out

Along the same lines of talking about marriage, most commitment-phobic men avoid weddings like the Ebola virus. A man might feel that if a woman invites him to a wedding, she’s trying to send him a message that she’s ready to tie the knot as well. Even if that’s not the case, a man who is averse to marriage will probably be averse to weddings too. But if your significant other actually looks forward to going to wedding or two with you, then he may be letting his guard down and actually wondering about a wedding of his own. Believe it or not, some men actually envision their wedding day, so next time you’re at a reception, pay attention to if he’s trying to catch the garter.

Buying a Home

If your man lives in a basement apartment, but is suddenly talking about buying a 4 bedroom house, chances are he’s not planning to live there by himself. He’s thinking ahead, and you notice he starts watching “House Hunters” on HGTV. He talks about a big back yard for the kiddies, good school districts and a safe neighborhood. Basically, he’s thinking at least 5 years ahead, and if you are part of his future plans, he’ll want you to help him find the perfect home. So…start thinking about what type of drapes you want to pick out!

He Starts Acting Like a Husband, Not a Boyfriend

In short, he grows up. He might start behaving a little more responsibly, or a bit more domesticated. He does dishes at YOUR place, trades in his PlayStation 3 for household appliances and would rather cuddle with you on the couch than be in the club with his friends. Most men who are in bachelor mode don’t think in terms of coupledom. But when he starts envisioning himself as a husband, he uses words like “us” and “we” instead of “I” or “me” – and his boys come second. You are not a “ball and chain” – you are his best friend, and his bachelorhood isn’t as important to him anymore…you are. He takes care of you in a way that a husband would because he has already figured out that he wants you to be his wife.

He’s Closer to Your Parents – Especially Your Father

If your man and your parents are suddenly all buddy-buddy, then chances are he’s preparing to ask for your hand in marriage. For traditional men, the best way to get to a woman is through her mother or father, so he goes out of his way to chat them up more so they get a chance to know what type of man he his. When you notice that your boo calls your father more than you do, it may be so that when he asks your dad for permission to marry you, he’ll be “in like Flynn!”

Sudden Unexpected Plans

Normally your boyfriend can barely write out a grocery list or choose which movie to see; but if he suddenly tells you that he booked a dinner reservation to your favorite restaurant or planned a weekend getaway, he may have something up his sleeve. A man usually wants the proposal to be special for his lady, so he draws up elaborate plans in order to make it perfect. So if he makes unexpected plans and is buzzing around all excited and pleased with himself, this will probably be the most obvious and immediate clue that soon he’ll be getting on bended knee. Get ready!