5 Ways To Achieve An Orgasm

Having trouble orgasming? Don’t worry it’s a common problem. According to Medline Plus, around 10% to 15% of women have never had an orgasm. Sadly, studies also show that up to one half of women are not satisfied with how often they reach orgasm. 

Fortunately, there’s a few tweaks you can make in your sex life that will help you to achieve a mind-blowing climax, according to sex and relationship expert Gemma Nice. 

1. Get freaky alone, first.

During an interview with the New York Post published April 19, Nice revealed that women should get familiar with their bodies to achieve next level orgasms. Don’t be afraid to test out your wildest fantasies on yourself, the sex coach said. Before you bring your partner into the bedroom, run a few kinky tests on yourself to see what really grinds your pleasure gears. Nice shared that using sex toys can be a great way to test out what turns you on in the bedroom.

“Familiarizing yourself with what you enjoy will make orgasms more intense and effortless,” Nice explained. 

2. Try edging for explosive pleasure. 

Edging is a fun sex technique where you almost get to an orgasm, but slightly pull back, easing up on pleasure just enough so that you don’t fully climax. You repeat the process over and over until you’re ready to have an explosive orgasm.

Masturbating, oral sex or temperature play can be a great way to tease yourself and get riled up before heading to pleasure town. It’s also an excellent way to learn more about your body, helping you to build confidence in the bedroom.

In fact, a 2014 study of 96 women found that those who practiced masturbation and edging were more likely to reach orgasm. This may be connected to the anxiety many people feel about both giving and receiving pleasure.

Exploring your body through edging can help you better understand your needs, giving you the confidence and insight to talk openly with your doctor or partner about any concerns. Ultimately, this self-awareness can lead to improved sexual health and overall well-being.

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3. Incorporate Tantric Breathwork into your sex life.

Tantric breathwork increases blood flow throughout your body, helping to get your lady bits ready for a life-changing orgasm. Nice says that a technique called “fire-breathing” can help to light things up in the bedroom.

If solo, you can implement this into your next hanky panky session by lying down and focusing on contracting and releasing your pelvic floor muscles in rhythm with your breath. Goop notes that if you’re with your partner, try this facing each other, ideally with one partner seated in the other’s lap, legs wrapped around their waist. The partner on the bottom takes on the grounding, more structured role, often associated with masculine energy, while the one on top embodies a more receptive, feminine energy. 

You can switch roles to explore different dynamics and awaken new types of sexual energy between you.

4. Don’t be afraid to talk dirty or moan.

Moaning and dirty talk can be a great way to help you achieve an orgasm, whether you’re letting out a heavy sigh or a full on shout. You can ask your partner to whisper something kinky in your ear or let your partner know you’re really digging their moves in the sack. 

Whatever you choose, Nice shared that being vocal during sex can help to stimulate the vagus nerve—the central nerve that controls your brain heart and digestive system—leading to a great orgasm. 

“By breathing deeply, keeping your mouth open, and allowing natural moans to escape, you can enhance sensations and make climaxes more powerful.” 

5. Try deep penetration. 

Most women don’t reach orgasm from penetration alone. In fact, a 2015 study found that only 18.4% of women, between the ages of 18-94, said intercourse by itself was enough to make them climax. Meanwhile, 36.6% reported that clitoral stimulation was essential for orgasm during sex, and another 36% said that while it wasn’t strictly necessary, clitoral stimulation made their orgasms feel even better.

Nice said that you can try deep penetration in addition to clitirol stimulation as a way to build up to a great climax. 

“If cervical stimulation feels uncomfortable at first, go slow and focus on deep breathing to help your body adjust,” Nice added. 

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