Should You Hit On Someone At The Gym?

On paper, the gym might seem like a prime spot to strike up a conversation—after all, it’s full of fit, sweaty, and attractive people working on themselves. But in reality, approaching someone mid-workout is often a fast track to awkwardness.

Not only can it make the other person feel uncomfortable, but it also crosses boundaries in a space where people are usually focused on their personal goals. If your approach comes off as too pushy or inappropriate, it could lead to complaints—or even get you kicked out.

So, it’s probably best to admire from afar and save the flirting for a more appropriate setting, says Kristal DeSantis, a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Austin.

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“A gym is not like a club or café,” DeSantis told SELF during an interview published April 2. The relationship expert pointed out that the gym is a sacred space for many—a place to unwind after a long day or stay laser-focused on personal health and strength goals. Interrupting that with an awkward pickup attempt, especially mid-set, can totally kill the vibe for someone who sees the gym as their safe haven—an escape from daily stressors, including the unwanted attention they might face elsewhere.

Plus, it’s worth remembering that people can feel more exposed in this environment. Whether it’s wearing form-fitting clothes, skipping makeup, or being drenched in sweat, the gym isn’t exactly when most people want to land on someone’s romantic radar.