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Breakups are never easy, but sometimes they’re necessary—especially when the spark and healthy romance that once defined your relationship are no longer there. Here’s the challenge: It can be tough to know whether you and your partner just need a heartfelt conversation to sort things out, or if there are deeper issues that mean it’s time to call it quits. But don’t worry, MadameNoire has got you covered.

Here are six signs that might signal it’s time to end things for good with your partner.

1. Lack of emotional connection. 
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A clear indication that your relationship may be on the rocks is when you no longer feel emotionally connected to your partner. According to human behavior expert Jessen James, this can show up in various ways, such as experiencing a psychological disconnect in your relationship—something you shouldn’t overlook. You might find that intimacy with your partner no longer excites you, or you feel emotionally drained in their presence.

“From a psychological perspective, understanding whether emotional detachment is situational or a deeper pattern is crucial for addressing relationship challenges,” James told the New York Post in an article published March 6.

According to relationship counselor Suzanne Degges-White, emotional detachment can arise when you no longer feel comfortable or willing to share your true feelings, thoughts, and opinions with your partner. In a healthy relationship, both partners should feel at ease being open and honest with each other. However, if you start to sense a gap that’s preventing a deeper connection, or if it feels like pulling teeth just to have an engaging conversation—something that once came naturally—it could be a sign that you’re no longer interested in building that deeper bond.

“We ‘hide’ deeper feelings (from ourselves and from others)…When we find ourselves behaving in ways that aren’t typical, we might need to do a little soul-searching to get a clearer picture of where our attitude is coming from,” Degges-White told Brides during a September 2023 interview.

2. You have resentment towards your significant other.
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Another major sign that it’s time to end the relationship is when resentment starts to build. Even the smallest actions, like leaving the toilet seat up, can set you off, or old anger from past conflicts may resurface. If resentment lingers and refuses to go away, it may be a clear indication that it’s time to part ways.

However, if you and your partner are willing to communicate openly, you may be able to identify the root cause of the issue, says James.

“Resentment doesn’t just go away on its own. The root cause needs to be addressed and openly communicated to see if it is something you can forgive, don’t suppress your feelings,” he added to the New York Post.  

3. Communication is no longer strong. 
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Since we’re on the topic of communication, it’s important to remember that healthy relationships require equal effort from both partners. Regular check-ins are essential to address problems as they arise. However, when communication breaks down, it can spell disaster.

Healthline notes that a lack of communication can breed bitterness, unease, and may even lead you or your partner to seek fulfillment outside the relationship if your needs aren’t being met. Even worse, poor communication can escalate into constant arguments.

While disagreements are a normal part of any relationship, you shouldn’t feel like you’re always bracing for the next blow-up. Unresolved conflicts that become disrespectful or demeaning over time can seriously impact your emotional well-being.

If communication becomes impossible and you find yourself arguing every day with your partner, it might be time to walk away.

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4. There’s a lack of trust.
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A lack of trust is a major red flag in any relationship. If you or your partner are constantly questioning each other’s whereabouts or honesty, it’s a clear sign that the relationship should end. Trust is the foundation of a healthy connection, and without it, your relationship will inevitably crumble.

This becomes even more problematic if your partner has a history of lying or cheating, which can lead to resentment that poisons the relationship, according to Healthline. Trust is crucial. If it’s no longer there, it’s time for a breakup.

5. You want different things in life. 
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It’s normal to have different desires in life, but if you and your partner aren’t aligned on your major life goals, it can lead to compatibility issues. If you find yourselves disagreeing on important matters like having children or career expectations, it might be time to part ways.

As one Reddit user shared in a 2023 forum titled, “How do you know it’s time to break up with your partner?” sometimes it’s not immediately obvious that you and your partner have different life goals. Compatibility issues can arise as the relationship matures.

“Sometimes it gradually builds, you don’t take note of the small things at first because you can easily explain them away, but ultimately you don’t forget,” the user named @ciscoholdmusic penned, while explaining the factors that led to their breakup. “For me, it’s the eventual realization that we are actually not that compatible. Wanting different things in life (kids, moving for work, etc). Wanting different things within our relationship (division of domestic work, meeting each other’s sexual needs). Slightly mismatched priorities (finances, family interference).”

They added, “It’s easy to think they’re not important enough issues on their own to end a relationship. But the truth is, unless there’s miraculous communication and a genuine effort to change, it’s not going to. And then you have to consider that you’re never going to get the best for yourself out of this relationship. Do you accept that and suck it up and keep going? I can’t.”

6. You’re constantly thinking about breaking up with your partner. 
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If you constantly find yourself thinking about whether you should break up, it’s often a sign that the relationship may no longer be serving you. When those thoughts persist, it’s usually an indication that something is wrong, and it might be time to face the reality that it’s time to let go.

Breakups are tough, but hopefully, this advice will help you recognize the signs of a potential split and give you the chance to improve the relationship before either you or your partner feels that leaving is the best option. Remember, communication is key.

Have you been through a breakup before? Tell us about it down in the comments section.

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