Breakup Detox: 6 Tips To Healing & Getting Over An Ex
Still Stuck On Your Ex? 6 Essential Tips To Detox And Heal After A Breakup
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Moving on after a breakup is tough. The journey to feeling OK is never linear, and sometimes, even when you feel like you’ve made it to the other side, you can be randomly triggered. This is why detoxing from an ex is key to the healing process. Your heart may have a long road ahead of it, but a great way to clear the path is to emotionally cleanse yourself from your ex and the breakup. We know it’s easier said than done, but to get you started and make your journey a little easier, here are a few ways to purge your mind and soul of your ex.
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1. Write Down Your Thoughts And Journal
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We all have that one friend who swears by journaling, and when you’re going through an especially tough time, like a breakup, it can be extremely beneficial. It gives you space to organize your thoughts, and it can help you work through painful or uncomfortable thoughts and make sense of them. This, in turn, can help you reduce your anxiety and give you more clarity.
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2. Establish A Routine
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Implementing a routine into your daily life can bring a lot of comfort to you, especially if your emotions and life have felt out of control. Having structure outside of yourself can be helpful when dealing with a lot of pain and chaotic feelings. Having a solid system for your day-to-day is also a great way to keep your mind off your ex because a schedule keeps you moving, which aids in the detox process.
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3. Redecorate And Deep Clean
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Part of detoxing is scrubbing your ex out of your life, which can be done by deep cleaning your home.
In addition to removing the things that remind you of your ex, creating a space that reflects your new identity and life without them can help you move on. Although we may feel messy and cloudy on the inside, sometimes getting our outside space to match what we want to feel inside is all the start we need.
Living in a mess can also negatively impact your mental health and increase your anxiety, confusion, and stress, which is the last thing you need when processing your breakup.
The very act of decluttering and cleaning your home can also be a healthy way to regulate and manage your emotions.
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4. Remove ALL Messages And Pictures From Your Phone
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This is obviously breaking up 101, but it’s a crucial and often the hardest part of detox because, let’s face it, we miss things and the people they’re attached to. The last thing you need is your phone to remind you of a memory in the middle of your healing journey. And honestly, this might be a heavier lift than clearing out your actual home. So, spend a day combing through your phone for all communications and pictures together. This also includes screenshots of memes, messages, and videos you saved with them in mind. Get rid of all of it!
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5. Spend Time With Your Friends And Family
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A great way to purge your ex from your system is to fill it with loved ones. Plan that girl’s trip or bedrot with your bestie all day. Spend time with your family doing errands or watching TV. It might not be very exciting, but the point is to be around people who care and love you. It’s easy to put romantic love on a higher tier than other loves, but the devotion we get from our girls, our mother, or even our knucklehead siblings is just as valuable and a beautiful way to nurture a bruised heart.
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6. Try To Be Present
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Dwelling on the past and grieving the future is the biggest enemy of a healing heart. Letting those realities and imaginations go takes a while, but you can start cleansing yourself of the past by reminding yourself to be present. It’s a great way to build a mental habit, not to ruminate on past feelings or the future you’ve imagined.
We wish you the best on your journey to healing. You got this!
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