10 Celebrities Who Love Polyamorous Relationships

In the last few years, more and more celebrities have been coming out about their explorations in relationships outside of monogamy. Many – even some that choose to be in a relationship with one person – feel that that form of a relationship can have too many rules and is too restrictive. Others believe that they can connect to multiple different people and want a relationship that will allow them the freedom to do that. 

Some people go all in with polyamory and others have delved into it but have since evolved their relationships back to monogamy or something else. So here are eight celebrities who do not believe in monogamy. 

1. Willow Smith

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While she typically keeps her love life pretty secretive, Willow Smith did inform fans in 2021 that she preferred polyamory. 

In an episode of Red Table Talk with her mother Jada Pinkett Smith, Willow said, “With polyamory, I feel like the main foundation is the freedom to be able to create a relationship style that works for you and not just stepping into monogamy because that’s what everyone around you says is the right thing to do. So, I was like, ‘How can I structure the way that I approach relationships with that in mind?'” 

Upon learning that infidelity was the main reason for divorce, the singer gave another example where a polyamorous relationship could be useful. 

“I mean, I’ll give you an example. Let’s say you haven’t always been the kind of person that wanted to have sex all the time, but your partner is. Are you gonna be the person to say, you know, ‘Just because I don’t have these needs, you can’t have them either?’ And so that’s kind of one of the reasons why I actually was interested in poly because I was introduced to it through kind of a nonsexual lens.”

2. DeRay Davis

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Comedian-actor DeRay Davis is another individual who has proudly embraced his polyamorous lifestyle. The 44-year-old sat with fellow comedian-actress Nicole Byer on her podcast Why Don’t You Date Me where he delved more into how he’s incorporated polyamory into his own life.

After first revealing that he has always been in a relationship “since probably third grade,” Davis said he started having multiple girlfriends at the early age of 12 or 13. 

“I think it’s more of an organic thing,” he said detailing his experience. Like, I explain to a woman who I’m seeing that she’s not the only person I’m seeing. If she doesn’t want to be part of whatever’s going on, I can understand that, you know.” 

Davis also explained that when women do want to be a part of the situation, “we’re all dating.” 

“A woman will date five different guys at the same time,” he said before later adding, “but while you’re dating, you’re learning, like you’re learning consistently what you want in a relationship. All of us.”

In 2016, Davis had a reality TV show called Living with Funny where fans got a glimpse of his polyamorous relationship with his two girlfriends Coco and Caro.

3. Ne-Yo

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Since the end of his marriage to Crystal Renay, R&B singer Ne-Yo has recently admitted to a new self-discovery about relationships. Following the split, the Miss Independent singer was seen out multiple times with two women. 

He said in a 2023 interview on DJ Vlad’s channel, “As much as I believe in love, as much as I believe in the concept of monogamy, I don’t know if it’s for me. Just because, I am a person that, I tend to crave new energy. It’s hard for me to lock into one thing and stay locked into that one thing for a long period of time.”

Earlier this year, TMZ caught up with him and asked if there is a limit to the amount of girlfriends he would have. He said, “No specific cap. It just depends on, you know, who I vibe with and who vibes with me,” adding on that he’ll take on “As many as you can afford.”

4. Jidenna

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The Classic Man himself has also been open about engaging in the poly lifestyle. He shared his experience with Teyana Taylor in her series with Bumble called Luv2SeeIt. 

He said, “When I first started I had the basic dream of threesomes. But then I realized I really wanted to have a romantic relationship with another woman.” Jidenna also brought up the idea of a relationships evolving. He said, “Our agreement has license to change we can change whenever we want. If one of us feels a way or if both of us feel a way.”

And it seems that is what the “Bambi” singer has done with his love life. In 2023, he sat with Ebro where he talked about meeting a woman that is seemingly his match. 

We both came from non-monogamous situations,” he told Ebro. I met her, she basically had two boyfriends and she was in love with them both. And she told me the second day, after we was dancing to Marvin Gaye at sunset, I was like, ‘Damn! I might love her.’”

“The women I was dating, I stopped. I closed all those doors. So now it’s just us. Is it monogamy or is it monogamous? Maybe you can call it that. But I just know we are in this stage.” He said, “We in a foundation building stage. That’s all I care about.”

5. Janelle Monae

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Jidenna’s friend and close collaborator, has also come forward about being involved in non-traditional relationships. In 2018, she announced that she was pansexual which, according to Rolling Stone, means you are attracted to all genders -including cisgender, non-binary, etc. 

Speaking to Vogue about her revelation on her interest in being in poly relationships she said, “I never was the girlfriend that would be jealous. Looking back, I’m like – clearly!”

Last year, she came out with a song called “Only Have Eyes 42″ on her album Age of Pleasure. The single was a nod to a polyamorous-esque relationship. After singing “I only have eyes for two” in the chorus, she comes in the second verse singing:

“Remember we sipped from the same glass

Then she bit your neck and I liked that

We said some things we can’t take back

I’m happy it’s out in the open.” 

The song even ended up on former President Barack Obama’s 2023 summer playlist. 

6. Joey Bada$$

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Brooklyn native, Joey Bada$$, is now happily dating actress-singer Serayah as of 2023. However, before getting into that relationship, Bada$$ was on Angela Yee’s Lip Service in 2022 talking to the hosts about wanting multiple wives confirming that he wants to not just be in a polyamorous relationship, he wants to be a polygamist. “I want two,” he said when the host mentioned his thoughts on having wives. “I’m only 27 right now. I want two girlfriends.”

Yee wanted Bada$$ to clarify whether the women can be intimate with each other. He said, “Well that’s up to them. As the man I feel like that’s not really your role. You know what I’m saying. It’s like, they would have to be cool with each other and be able to call each other and stuff like that and if they want to get down like that then cool. I’m for that. But nah they don’t have to, it’s not a requirement.”

7. Lizzo

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Lizzo is another artist who has stated that monogamy is not her cup of tea. While it’s not clear how long she and her comedian-actor boyfriend, Myke Wright, have been together, Lizzo did confirm their relationship in 2022. 

It was during that same year in a Breakfast Club interview where she explained why she doesn’t believe in monogamy. 

“I think a traditional relationship scares me for 10 years, but love is forever. I can love somebody forever,” the “About Time” singer said. “Monogamy, to me, is a little claustrophobic because there are rules. I think a love relationship that’s not monogamous has no rules. I think people who do poly and all that stuff—there’s still rules.”

She later had to clarify that while she might not like to go the traditional route in relationships, it does not mean she is polyamorous. 

From her Vanity Fair interview, which she reposted part of on her Instagram in 2022, she said, “Is monogamy a religion? People fight for monogamy like they pray to it every day. I am not a polyamorous person, I’m not in love with multiple partners. That is not me. He’s the love of my life. We are life mates. I’m not thinking about sex when I think about monogamy and rules. I’m thinking about the autonomy and independence of him and me. How wonderful would it be to be this complete independent person and to come together to make two complete independent people?”

8. Nick Cannon

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Nick Cannon has been linked to many women before and after being locked down as a husband to Mariah Carey for six years. In 2019, Cannon was a guest on T.I.’s Expeditiously podcast and the Wild ‘N Out  star shared that neither marriage or a monogamous relationship is something he ever sees in his future again. But he also explained that he doesn’t fully classify as polyamorous.

“I respect a polyamorous situation, but me personally- that’s too much of a construct with too many rules in it. I don’t want to answer to nobody! I don’t want five or six – I want to be by my goddamn self!”

He later added, “I think I’ll never be able to be with just one woman again. Like, that’s gon’ be tough for me. I did it in marriage! I was very faithful in my marriage…the whole time I was married. And the reason why we split up–it had nothing to do with infidelity or nothing like that. But I knew I would never get married again. Once I stepped away from that, I knew that construct is not designed for me. So I gave it my all, and even before that I was like, ‘I don’t believe in marriage.’ But, shit–it was Mariah Carey! Whatever she say, I’m with it!”

9. Jada Pinkett Smith

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From 2018 to 2023, Jada Pinkett Smith gave the world more than a peak inside her world of thoughts while going into deep discussions with celebrity guest and her own family about topics like mental health, drug usage, and marriage. The latter was one everybody was interested in Pinkett-Smith addressing because for years, the lingering rumor has been that she and her Oscar award-winning husband Will Smith were swingers and had an open marriage. While on a press tour for her 2023 book Worth the mother-of-two revealed that none of that was true.

But around 2016, the Smiths had reached a point in their marriage where they had decided to separate and essentially “broke up” without telling the public. Pinkett-Smith explained in 2020 on her show Red Table Talk that she then infamously got into an “entanglement,” or as the “Men In Black” star corrected, “a relationship” with R&B singer August Alsina – which the artist revealed first in his 2020 interview with Angela Yee.

In the interview Alsina says, “I devoted myself to it, I gave my full self to it — so much so to the point that I can die right now and be OK with knowing that I truly gave myself to somebody.”

Speaking to her husband about the “entanglement” Pinkett-Smith said she was able to “confront a lot emotional immaturity” and “do some really deep healing.” The Girls Trip star said when she came through her healing and came to realize some things about her relationship with will, Alsina decided to cut all communication with Pinkett-Smith.

10. Monique

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Mo’Nique is another person who has once come forward about her marriage being an open relationship. She revealed it almost 20 years ago in a 2006 article with Essence. Ten years after that, she and her husband Sidney gave fans a deeper look into their marriage on their 2016 podcast called Mo’Nique & Sidney’s Open Relationship.

“So when I sat down and said this is what I want initially it was because I wanted to still have sex with who I was seeing and I didn’t want it to be where I wasn’t keeping anything from my best friend. That’s how it initially started, and when I tell you the conversations that we’ve had, it has taken me to a different place where I’m not even thinking of another man sexually, but still open to it.”

Mo’Nique thought because she was the famous one in the relationship that she had more authority to do what she pleased at that time. But she soon realized that was not the case when her husband made her realize that she if she was allowed to go outside of the marriage, then he would be allowed to as well.

Their “open marriage”, over the years, began to evolve from outside of just the physical. “So it’s not just an open relationship from a sexual standpoint, it’s an open relationship in terms of dialogue that you’re having with your spouse, your mate, your sons, your daughters, your mothers, your father, because we always hear ‘be someone important’ or ‘be yourself’ but that’s only when its politically correct—when you’ve fallen into the boundaries of what people expect you to be as opposed to you being yourself when it is against the preverbal norm but what we find is against the norm is really the norm.”

Last year, she told Hollywood Reporter how her marriage with Sidney has evolved so much, to the point where she had little interest in an ope marriage.

“Life began to happen,” she says. “I began to see a strength I had never seen before. He loved me at my worst. I didn’t want to sacrifice that just for a lay. So I grew out of that.”

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