True Life: I Knew He Wasn’t Into Me When…

…I realized I was doing all the communicating. If a guy is into you, he’ll make an effort to talk to you. Even if it is about nothing! Lol

… over a year ago we both admitted to having feelings for each other….wait for it, BUT STILL HAVEN’T WENT ON A DATE!!!! Like seriously, I mean we’ve hung out and gone to the movies and what not. But he has yet to actually ask or take me out on a date…ugh, it’s annoying. We have everything in common, besides the age difference. I’m 21 and he is 27, but what difference does that make when we’re clearly so compatible. But I am too young and eligible to wait on this slow man, who clearly isn’t really all that into me…boggles my mind, grinds my gears, and pushes my buttons when he calls me by the nickname he gave me and only he calls me, but can’t muster up a simple “Hey CC, can I take you out?”

…he spent the night two nights in a row and didn’t touch me. When he said he would come see me 3 different times, but didn’t and ALWAYS had an excuse as to why he didn’t show up “I guess I’m just busier than I realize.”

…he started hitting on a co-worker because I wouldn’t put out. Or how about one Sunday morning he invited me to breakfast and I said I’m getting ready for church wanna come… and silence.

…I was doing ALL the giving, ALL the calling, ALL the initiating…and not even getting a thank you or grunt in response. It took me a while to get it.

…he went home to a different state but told me that he is a sort of “out of sight out of mind” type of person, then I didn’t hear from him for 3 days.

…he had excuses about why he could not spend time with me and did not make plans to be with me on Thanksgiving, Christmas, or New Years.

…a girl he was secretly seeing tagged pics of herself on his FB wall and he told her he loved her! Smdh

…he got married to someone else while we were still in a relationship.

…everyone came before me!!!

…he never would pick up the phone and call, but would only send text messages.

…we had sex one night… Then the next morning I see him having breakfast with ‘her’ and neither of them would look at me. Ohh… She was a close acquaintance we all hung out with.

I had been dating for about 2 years and never really thought much about settling down… until I met him. He was perfect! He had everything going for himself and I thought I was the luckiest girl to have found such a great catch. We went out a lot, he called me all the time. Then after a few weeks of bliss, he made plans with me and never came through. He called we talked about it and he apologized. Then he did it again, and again, and again. I made excuses for it for about 6 months, thinking that all he needed was time to see how good of a girl I was. The last time we saw each other I realized that the feelings I had for him turned to insecurity and bitterness due to how he actually treated me. I ended things a week later and haven’t looked back since

…after 5 years of dating and no ring…my husband only waited 9 months.

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