So, Is The G-Spot Real Or Is It In Our Imagination?

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When it comes to having mind-blowing, weak-in-the-knees, feeling like you need to go to confession after types of orgasms, the G-spot has always been exalted as the thing that can get you there. For those wondering, it got its name from a German physician named Ernst Gräfenberg who found it during his dedicated work in researching urethral stimulation (Thanks G-Dog!) If you were to ask 100 women if they’ve ever stimulated their G-spot, you’d get mixed answers. But, some would certainly say “Yes.” Here’s the thing: the medical community claims the G-spot isn’t real.

This study from The Journal of Sexual Medicine explains that researchers (sorry for this next part) dissected female cadavers and found they couldn’t find anything resembling the G-spot. Leave it to a bunch of scientists to explore something as lively as the G-spot in subjects who are, well, not alive.

The nature of that study alone points to a major issue we need to discuss: the G-spot isn’t just a structure but rather a lived experience. And no doctor or scientist call tell you what you’ve experienced in your body. You know what you’ve felt, or haven’t felt, and sometimes it’s not something anyone can see with a microscope or x-ray machine. It’s time to fully understand the G-spot (since clearly, doctors in lab coats are missing the point).

The G-Spot Myth

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What you’ve probably heard is that the g-spot is a cluster of highly sensitive nerves inside the vagina, a few inches in on the belly button side. Maybe someone referenced sponge-like tissue. So you started feeling around in there, seeing if you could find a patch of your inner vaginal wall that felt different from the rest. If you found no such wall, it’s because the G-spot is not a cluster of highly sensitive nerves.

The G-spot is not one spot at all, which is why the name is so misleading. According to sex researcher Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., the G-spot is an entire area inside the vaginal canal that includes the vaginal wall, the urethra, spongy area of erectile tissue around the urethra, parts of the internal clitoris – and possibly other areas. The official name for the region is the clitoris-urethra-vagina complex (CUV).

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Why Do Some Doctors Say It Doesn’t Exist?

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Here’s the problem with doctors trying to find the G-Spot – it’s not exactly about seeing a zone, but rather about having an experience. For some women (and only some), when the CUV is stimulated (and in varying degrees, by different things), an orgasm can occur. Women who have experienced that would tell you that they have, and found, their G-spot. And they’re correct!

However, it’s important to remember that everybody is a little bit different. You could take 10 people who all have belly buttons, and each one will have a belly button of a slightly different size or shape, and even a different location. Sometimes the belly button is higher on one person and lower on another. We acknowledge that we’re all anatomically slightly different, and that’s true of the CUV. Each part of it might be in a slightly different position inside the vagina for one woman compared to another. These tiny differences in layout can be the reason that, for some women, stimulation of the area does nothing, for some it does everything, and for some, it depends.

When we say it depends, we mean that, having a certain part of your body touched can feel good or bad depending on who is doing the touching, the context, the pressure, the size of the object doing the touching and more.

When a stranger grabs the back of your neck it’s terrifying and even painful. When your partner gently rubs their face on the back of your neck, it’s relaxing and possibly arousing. This is all true for the G-spot. For some women, fingering does nothing for the region but penetration from a toy or penis does. For some, more pressure is required for stimulation than others. For some, nothing happens when their G-spot is stimulated.

Just because some women get nothing from having this area stimulated doesn’t mean it isn’t real. The G-spot is ultimately experienced – but not exactly visible to the human eye.

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So, Does Everyone Have A G-Spot?

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Every woman (besides those who have undergone surgical procedures to the area) has the anatomy that is a part of the CUV. However, stimulation of the CUV does not result in pleasure or orgasm for everyone who has one.

Some experts say that if you are able to orgasm from “unassisted intercourse” (aka without clitoral stimulation), you likely have a fairly active G-spot. If you need clitoral stimulation, that doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t have a G-spot – maybe you haven’t found the right toy, finger, penis, movement or pressure to activate it. The great news is, continued exploration can be a lot of fun.

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