The Most Common Times Of Year For Breakups Is Upon Is

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It’s the spooky season, the holiday season, the time-with-friends season, but it’s also breakup season. Yup, that’s a thing and we are currently in the thick of it. According to a new survey conducted by Her Norm, there are certain times of year when breakups are more common than others. More specifically, these are times of the year when people are searching for tips on “how to break up.” And, some states are even more prone to breakups at certain times of the year than others.

It is no coincidence that certain seasons trigger romantic endings. With each new month comes certain traditions and unavoidable changes that can leave people reconsidering with whom they partner up with. When you get to know the trends, you’ll see there’s logic behind the weeks and days when people choose to reclaim their single status. Here are the most common times of the year for breakups:

Breakup Season: The Most Common Weeks To Call It Quits

Pre-Halloween and Halloween

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According to the survey, Minnesota, Massachusetts, California and Nebraska are big on October breakups. Nebraska should be seeing a surge right around now (Oct. 24 through Oct. 30 are peak breakup days).

Why it happens: the day after Halloween, we’re launched immediately into the official holiday season. This is when we start going home to our families. Halloween is the last “party” holiday of the season, until New Year’s Eve. There’s lots of festive soirees and dinners with parents and extended family from here on out. As one expert explains in Psychology Today, having your family like your partner is a big predictor of relationship success. So, around Halloween there may be some reconsidering on whether the person they’re with is someone they want to bring home for the family-oriented holidays.

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Pre-Thanksgiving and Thanksgiving

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Between Nov. 7 and Nov. 27, searches on “how to break up” surge in Wyoming, Iowa, Alaska and Florida.

The bulk of this time is still pre-family-gatherings. Some couples didn’t want to call it quits before Halloween. Maybe their couples’ costume depends on a significant other or they want a date to an event. Either way, that brings us in to early November, and while people start considering what they’re grateful for leading up to Thanksgiving, they might decide their partner doesn’t make the cut.

Why it happens: Thanksgiving is an emotionally charged time of year. There’s the simple matter that November is National Gratitude Month, meaning we’re all encouraged for weeks to consider what uplifts us, supports us and makes our lives better. If your relationship doesn’t fit that description, it’s hard to ignore it this time of year. Then, there’s this other thing: if you stick it out through Thanksgiving, you might feel obligated to stick it out all the way through New Year’s Eve. You’re either doing the holiday season together or you’re not.

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Christmas Week Through New Year’s Eve

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Those final days before Christmas and the entire time between Christmas and New Year’s see a lot of splits. According to the HerNorm survey, folks will see a lot of pre-Christmas breakups. Then, there’s a second surge around New Year’s Eve and the New Year. In fact, January shows the highest number of breakup searches for 11 states.

Why it happens: Social activities increase around this time of year. According to a survey by Lending Tree, this time last year, nearly 30 percent of millennials planned on hosting pricey holiday parties. So you’re suddenly thrown into the thick of things, and you and your partner are meeting each other’s friends and family at a rapid rate. These situations are ripe for conflict. Add to that that the incoming New Year has many of us asking ourselves what no longer serves us. And for some, it’s their current romantic partner. When considering one’s goals, dreams and aspirations for the New Year, it can become very clear that the person in their bed just isn’t in line with those.

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The Most Common Times Of Year For Breakups Is Upon Us