Think you’re the only woman who wishes she could keep her cool over certain things? Think again. We’re not made of stone. As much as we’ve worked on our self-confidence and learned to let some things roll off our shoulders, there are just some parts of a relationship that get under every woman’s skin. Like these:
The long time female friend
The one who knows absolutely everything about your man. She knows his pet peeves, she knows when a girlfriend is annoying him. And you have to know that she knows. If you just messed up, she knows it and you don’t.
His foreign hobbies
He is really into something you know nothing about. A fantasy football league, some video game, an obscure political party—there is all sorts of jargon for it and whenever he and his friends get to talking about it, you end up sitting there silently. And feeling like on-lookers think you and your boyfriend have nothing in common.
When he doesn’t …finish
Men ejaculate, to be scientifically correct. That is just what they do. They are usually not the ones struggling in the “get-off” department so, if they are struggling for some reason, we always take it personally. If he says it’s a medical problem, we will feel insecure until we see those medical papers.
When he doesn’t respond to the cute stuff
Female friends can get into a long repoire of funny/cute texts, trying to one up each other. Men however don’t really feel the need to respond if it’s not a question. So when you send him an adorable, affectionate text, often a man will just smile, laugh, and shut the phone, assuming you know he got it. But you don’t! And you don’t think he appreciated it if he doesn’t respond.
Staying at his place
Every woman wonders when she has over-stepped her boundaries once the relationship gets to that comfortable spot of staying at his place a lot. When is he actually happy to have you there and when is he secretly craving you’d go for a walk and give him space? When does he actually think it’s cute that your hand-washed underwear is hanging over his shower and when does he think it’s TMI? No woman knows how to balance this dynamic perfectly.
When things become settled
When he stops sending you texts like “I’m day dreaming about you” or “let’s just play hooky from work” or “I’m so lucky I met you” it’s easy to wonder if he is still excited about you. It’s common for those super romantic gestures to slow down once the relationship settles, but the question is: has he just gotten to that point of being comfortable (in a good way) with you, or over you? This happens in every relationship.
The rambunctious friend
Every guy has one—the instigator, the one who rallies everyone, the one who probably tells your boyfriend something like “live a little” when he’s being offered a lap dance. You don’t necessarily think that friend would ever convince your man to cheat, but you do worry that he makes single life look so fun, your boyfriend might miss it.
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