#MAFS Miles Was Doing A Lot Scheduling “Sex With My Wife” - Page 13

Miles and Karen

Miles the Peacemaker

I know I may be in the minority here but I felt that the conversation about Miles attempting to be the peacemaker during his parents’ divorce was not only incredibly enlightening, it was the reason Karen has been a little hesitant about Miles’ signs of affection. She said that she was able to sense that he is trying to please her. And given the fact that they don’t know one another all that well, she wonders if this is something he’s doing as an extension of his personality or something he’s doing that he will eventually resent. And she’s right to ask that question. Because the reality is, it’s likely a little bit of both. If Miles keeps giving and never asking for what he needs in return, he will burn out. He will resent Karen and that is a hard hurdle to overcome in a marriage. I don’t know what Miles is doing off camera and whether or not it’s too much too soon. But I hear Karen about the acts of service being ones that truly reflect someone’s love for you versus something they feel they have to do to impress or keep you. It’s important that all parties in a marriage understand their worth and contributions outside of the actions they perform for their partner. And they haven’t had the time to establish that with one another just yet. So she’s keeping her eyes peeled. I get it.