Tahiry Jose Details Abuse She Alleges She Endured When Dating Joe Budden
“Stop Lying!”: Tahiry Jose Alleges Joe Budden Broke Her Nose, Fractured Her Rib And Threw Her Down Stairs During Relationship
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During an interview with Tahiry Jose on Hollywood Unlocked that was released on Monday, the reality star opened up about past allegations that she endured abuse from her ex Joe Budden. This time, she didn’t hold anything back speaking on the matter. She claimed the rapper and popular podcaster beat her during their past relationship to the point where he fractured her rib and broke her nose.
The conversation came about when Jose was speaking on her ex and former friend Vado, whom she appeared on Marriage Boot Camp with and who infamously grabbed her up in a forceful way on the show. When talking about how she dealt with an abusive relationship before that situation, host Jason Lee asked her point blank if Budden was her abusive ex. After a number of seconds of Jose trying to find the right words, she said he was indeed her abuser. And she is well-aware of the fact that people may look at her and be skeptical of her story, considering she and Budden have been so friendly in the past. In the season of Love and Hip Hop New York that just finished, she was caught in something of a love triangle with him and the mother of his son, Cyn Santana.
“I’ve had to endure this bully for the last 10 years. I even befriended the bully,” she said. “I didn’t know what else to do.”
She shared that after Budden spoke about her situation gone viral with Vado on his podcast, she could no longer keep quiet, especially when she says he’s lied about his own abuse towards her forever.
During the chat with Lee, she opened up about verbal abuse leading to physical abuse, and how her decision to try and leave him allegedly ended with her being thrown down the stairs. She also speaks on what it’s like to be abused and still want to deal with the person who did you harm. As for Budden’s account of things, and he has been accused of abuse to the point of miscarriage before by model Esther Baxter, he claimed in 2010 that he did put his hands on Jose at one time after finding out she was allegedly cheating. He claimed he only “mushed” her (which is still a no-no).
“I mushed the sh-t out of her f–king a–. And I think she was asking to get mushed,” he told Angela Yee. “She was dead caught cheating and I was fresh off tour and I was like ‘What’s up? You’re caught, you’re busted.’”
Jose says things went quite differently than what he claimed. Hit the flip to see what she says about what she allegedly endured.
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She Initially Kept Quiet About What She Was Dealing With to Stay Focused on Her Work
“I think the way I was dealing with being in a relationship with Joe was just tucking it, hiding it cause I can’t stop. I have to continue going because people rely on me,” she said. “I have to handle stuff because I have to grow in this business. I’m not going to fold. I’m not failing because you want me to. I just keep going — until your trauma meets you.”
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She Was Upset That Joe Talked About Her Situation With Vado and Painted Her As an Aggressor
“And then watch your ex say something like, ‘Tahiry will fight a man.’ I didn’t fight him. I was scared to death,” she said. “No, I don’t walk around throwing apples or fighting a man. I’ve been beaten before. That relationship left me with a fractured rib, a broken nose because somebody was sending him a message….pushed me down a flight of stairs.”
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He Allegedly Pushed Her Down the Stairs After Being Angry over Messages on Her Phone When She Was Ready to Leave Him
“I remember having a plan to leave because the reason he was so upset was because I was already leaving. Looking through my phone and sh-t. But I had already told him give me two weeks to pack up my things and he agreed to it,” she said. “Then he started looking through my phone. Next thing you know, I got woken up by him dragging me from my ankle.”
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She Says Joe Broke Her Down Verbally Before Allegedly Physically Attacking Her
“I became that person that you hear about. And women need to know that a man will break your spirit before he actually puts his hands on you,” she said. “It started with verbal abuse. Emotional abuse. And then eventually it turned to that. I still fear for my safety. He hurt me bad and I just stayed quiet.”
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She Lied to Doctors About How She Broke Her Ribs Because Joe Was With Her
“I went to the hospital and he sat next to me and I lied to the doctors and said I was cleaning a cabinet and fell in the the kitchen,” she said. “And then he rapped about it…For years I just sat there.”
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Why She Decided to Stop Being Quiet About the Abuse
“I tried to deal with this privately, but every chance you get you sit there and you lie and then you go as far as to doing twenty-something minutes of your podcast and you say, ‘Tahiry will fight a man’? No I will fight you back if you’re trying to hit me. And I didn’t fight him,” she said. “To sit there and have something to say about domestic violence…I’ve been home for three weeks trying to clear my mind. Why am I not with you physically but mentally you’re trying to keep me in this prison?”
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How Megan Thee Stallion’s Situation Triggered Her
“A lot has triggered [me], like the Meg stuff. The people going back and forth online about the sh-t. This is why we don’t speak up,” she said. “I don’t want to deal with that on top of trying to figure out how to stay healthy, be healthy. Then comes your ex who is clearly lying and his friends know. He’s just ‘ha ha ha I hope she’s doing well.’ But you text me Wednesday when the sh-t [with Vado] went viral: ‘Yo, you in town?’ Joey text me. Why are you asking me fam? Leave me alone at this point.”
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She Thought for Some Time That It Would Be Best to Keep Him in Her Life
“Yes, I went back like every woman that’s gotten beaten before. Yes. And I left. And yes, we spoke off and on throughout the years. And yes we’re on a show. Yes,” she said. “My sick brain probably thinking you keep your friends close and your enemies closer.”
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She Said It Became Harder and Harder to Hear Him Deny Abuse Towards Her
“How do you heal from something that you watched somebody lie about for so many years?” she asked.
“I never really talked about none of this because how do you heal with all this noise? I think I’m a strong one, but it’s really painful to watch men do what they do and because they have a platform, lie about it to your face,” she added. “It’s almost like you’re making a mockery. You’re making fun of me.”
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She Says She Just Wants Him to Stop Contacting Her At This Point — And Lying
While there are people who often say they would love to see the former couple reunite, she now says she just wants him out of her life.
“I’m tired. I just want to be free,” she said. “Just leave me alone. And stop lying! And stop putting your hands on women!”
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