Reasons To End That On-Again-Off-Again Relationship For Good
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On-again-off-again relationships make for great R&B songs; however, that’s about as far as it goes. The fact that you always end up with the same person over and over may seem like a testament to your love, but it’s also indicative of unhealthy relationship patterns. If that’s not reason enough, here are ten more reasons to exit that emotional rollercoaster.
You’ve seen this movie before
All relationships follow patterns and the blueprint for this particular relationship always seems to end with a breakup. After a while, it’s not even surprising anymore.
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You’re blocking others who can be a better partner
One of the issues with wasting time in a relationship that you know has no future is that your time can be better spent with someone else. Choosing to stay tied down to a dead end relationship blocks you from other potential relationships with more promising outcomes.
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Things keep ending for a reason
Unless people are truly committed to self-work and changing themselves for the better, there’s a pretty good chance that they will continue to exhibit the same unhealthy behaviors. Most breakups happen for a reason and the fact that you continue to breakup means that the issue hasn’t gone anywhere. Peep the writing that’s on the wall.
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Too much stress
Volatile relationships are stressful. You never really know when things are going to hit the fan, but you know that things will eventually go off the rails. This can make it difficult to focus on other areas of your life because it’s as though you are always coming out of or about to go into a relationship crisis, which is emotionally exhausting when you really think about it.
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Your time can be better spent
In addition to blocking your blessings when it comes to other potential partners, wasting time in a dead end relationship can also rob you of time that can be spent on other important things such as working on yourself and advancing your career or education. Toxic relationships are major distraction and a thief of time.
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Can prohibit growth in other areas
In addition to robbing you of your time, remaining in the wrong relationship can also leave you stagnate. The chapter was supposed to end years or even months ago, yet you continue to go back, reading and re-reading to see if the outcome will somehow change. It won’t and it’s difficult to grow when you’re clinging to dead things.
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You’re using breakups in place of problem-solving
All relationships experience their share of problems, but couples who are constantly on-again and off-again sometimes lack basic problem-solving and conflict-resolution skills. Of course, there are ways to get better — such as couples therapy and communication exercises — but both parties have to commit to the process.
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It’s unfair to the children involved
It can be very confusing and painful for children to see their parents constantly breaking up and making up. Not only does it place them on an emotional seesaw, but it models unhealthy relationship patterns.
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The situation often gets more toxic
Another issue with on-again-off-again relationships is that the issues that are causing the breakup have a tendency to become more acceptable over time. Each time that you go back to the unhealthy situation, you send the message that you’re willing to accept anything this person dishes out for the sake of being with them.
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You deserve better
At the end of the day, you deserve a relationship that is consistent and a partner that doesn’t have to periodically lose you in order to treat you the way that you’re supposed to be treated.
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