Nicole Ari Parker On Boris Kodjoe: "I Wish That He Was My Boyfriend Again"

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People are so bored in the house they are taking the extra time they have now to have some serious conversations — and have them in front of hundreds and sometimes thousands of people on Instagram Live.

For instance, a conversation that probably could have been best had between herself and her husband, actress Nicole Ari Parker decided to have in front of him during a IG Live chat with funny man Chris Spencer and his wife Vanessa. Nicole basically said that she wanted her husband to date her again. By date, she didn’t necessarily mean take me out more (because that’s not happening in the midst of this pandemic), but treat her in the way he did when he was trying to lock her down, way before marriage and kids.

“Sometime in the last year or so I thought, you know, I wish that he was my boyfriend again,” she said in a clip obtained by IG page @SpiritualWord. “I don’t necessarily want to be single, but I miss the single life. I miss the text messages for no reason. I miss the coming up behind me when I’m scrambling eggs and just kissing me on the back of the neck.”

“I’m being general here, but I’m just saying there’s the trappings of being single,” she added. “You two are really good looking people and you’re married, and we’re married. There’s people that flirt with you, and the part of the flirtation doesn’t necessarily make you go wayward, but part of the flirtation that even makes you look at your phone, or even in your workspace, is that they have like a freshness or a newness. I personally believe that if you’re in it for the long haul, that freshness and newness is still possible if you talk about it. Be like, ‘Look, I know we talk about date night. Let’s go have a date night. I know we talk about kissing and texting for no reason, but the last time you text me was over like the cabinet guy.'”

Boris spent most of the conversation snacking away on whatever spread they had for the Live, his demeanor and expressions giving the impression he wasn’t super pleased with her sharing her desires of him with others. At one point, after the comment from Nicole about missing him kissing her neck when she’s scrambling eggs, Chris jokingly interjected to tell Boris he still does that for his wife. Boris responded by looking up, and saying flatly with food in his mouth, “Okay.”

This is interesting considering Boris has been a big advocate in the past for encouraging romantic partners to keep things fresh, but do so by not letting themselves go. That to him, was how partners could maintain one of the early perks of being boyfriend and girlfriend even into marriage.

“Ok part of the deal is, you got to keep it sexy.  Got to keep it hot. Because it’s easy getting married, but it’s not as easy to stay married.  And part of that is, like, I make my wife, my girlfriend.  She’s my girlfriend.  So, we got to keep it sexy. If we keep it sexy, we keep it right, everything else falls into place,” he said in 2013. “What if I gained 200 pounds? And then she’ll look at me like, really? And I couldn’t even blame her if she started looking around.  Because I took her off the market, so I have to deliver what the market could possibly deliver for her.  So, I gotta take that place. Right? So, I gotta fulfill those things that the market could’ve given her.  I’m the market now, so I got to keep it hot and she has to do the same for me.”

However, it seems outside of keeping it sexy physically, he’s possibly overlooked keeping it sexy in loving actions. While she could have certainly delivered it privately, hopefully Boris will still take heed of her message.

Nicole and Boris have been married since 2005 and share two kids together. Minus the boyfriend behavior missing, they’ve always looked very much in love, Hit the flip for photos of the pair (and pay attention to the fact that Nicole is a hair chameleon, if you didn’t know).

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The couple showed up to the black-tie affair that was the grand opening gala for Tyler Perry Studios last fall looking amazing, per the usual.

ATLANTA, GA – OCTOBER 05: Boris Kodjoe and Nicole Ari Parker attend Tyler Perry Studios Grand Opening Gala – Arrivals at Tyler Perry Studios on October 5, 2019 in Atlanta, Georgia.(Photo by Prince Williams/Wireimage)

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Okay abs! The couple showed off their sporty side while checking out an event at Essence Festival in New Orleans last July.

NEW ORLEANS, LOUISIANA – JULY 05: Boris Kodjoe and Nicole Parker during SiriusXM’s Heart & Soul Channel Broadcast from Essence Festival at Ernest N. Morial Convention Center on July 05, 2019 in New Orleans, Louisiana. (Photo by Jonathan Bachman/Getty Images for SiriusXM)

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Boris first sported the tuxedo he wore to the Tyler Perry Studios gala way back in 2018 at the Elton John AIDS Foundation event. Nicole kept it very Afrocentric chic with her headwrap and eclectic clutch.

WEST HOLLYWOOD, CA – MARCH 04: Actors Nicole Ari Parker (L) and Boris Kodjoe attends the 26th annual Elton John AIDS Foundation Academy Awards Viewing Party sponsored by Bulgari, celebrating EJAF and the 90th Academy Awards at The City of West Hollywood Park on March 4, 2018 in West Hollywood, California. (Photo by Jamie McCarthy/Getty Images for EJAF)

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The couple made matching cool again, and sexy, by doing all white everything at en event in the Pacific Palisades in 2017.

PACIFIC PALISADES, CA – JULY 15: Actress Nicole Ari Parker (L) and actor Boris Kodjoe attend the 19th Annual DesignCare 2017 at Private Residence on July 15, 2017 in Pacific Palisades, California. (Photo by David Livingston/Getty Images)

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Nicole and Boris shared a warm moment while enjoying the U.S. Open in New York City in 2016. They were there watching Serena Williams play, of course.

2016 U.S. Open – Day 8 Boris Kodjoe and his wife Nicole Ari Parker celebrate Serena Williams victory at Arthur Ashe Stadium during the Serena Williams match against Yaroslava Shvedova of Kazakhstan in the Women’s Singles round four match on Arthur Ashe Stadium on day eight of the 2016 US Open Tennis Tournament at the USTA Billie Jean King National Tennis Center on September 5, 2016 in Flushing, Queens, New York City. (Photo by Tim Clayton/Corbis via Getty Images)

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The very good-looking couple supported friend Holly Robinson Peete at her annual HollyRod Foundation DesignCare Gala in 2016.

PACIFIC PALISADES, CA – JULY 16: Actors Boris Kodjoe (L) and Nicole Ari Parker attend HollyRod Foundation’s DesignCare Gala on July 16, 2016 in Pacific Palisades, California. (Photo by Tiffany Rose/Getty Images for HollyRod Foundation)

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The black and white shot fits perfectly with the old-school pin/fascinator look Nicole rocked alongside her handsome hubby at at event in 2015.

LOS ANGELES, CA – OCTOBER 04: (EDITORS NOTE: Image has been shot in black and white. Color version not available) (L-R) Nicole Ari Parker and Boris Kodjoe attend The Alliance for Housing and Healing presents the Best in Drag show The at Orpheum Theatre on October 4, 2015 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Earl Gibson III/Getty Images)

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The two were hugged up and happy while hitting the red carpet at the BET Awards in 2015.

LOS ANGELES, CA – JUNE 28: Actors Nicole Ari Parker and Boris Kodjoe arrived at the BET & Make A Wish Foundation Recipients BET Experience At LA. Live Red Carpet arrivals – Weekend Events on June 28, 2015 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Leon Bennett/WireImage)

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They shared a cute moment together while checking out the celebrity gifting suite at the 2013 BET Awards at LA Live event in 2013.

LOS ANGELES, CA – JUNE 29: Actors Nicole Ari Parker and Boris Kodjoe attend day 1 of Backstage Creations Celebrity Gifting Suite during the 2013 BET Awards at L.A. LIVE on June 29, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Mark Sullivan/BET/Getty Images for BET)

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Did we mention that BET events are some of their favorite to strike a pose at? The couple sure looked like the boyfriend and girlfriend version of themselves at the BET Honors in 2011.

WASHINGTON, DC – JANUARY 15: Nicole Ari Parker and Boris Kodjoe attends the BET Honors 2011 at the Warner Theatre on January 15, 2011 in Washington, DC. (Photo by Leigh Vogel/FilmMagic)