10 Things Women Need To Stop Doing When They Start To Date

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When you start dating someone, only possibility lies in front of you. It’s an auspicious time, or, scary time (depending on your personalty), as you get to know the personality, quirks, and flaws of the beautiful human in front of you. But dating should be seen for what it is–dating. It’s not immediate commitment and it’s definitely not a marriage proposal. Chemistry is cute, but have you ever had personality, life goals, and lifestyles aligned? Yea, that part. Your early bliss is based on chemistry and emotions and unfortunately, that’s not all you need to determine if this person is a potential good life partner for you.

So the first thing women need to stop doing when newly dating someone is ignoring red flags. Whether it’s that he is a terrible communicator, a big talker with no follow through, already showing jealous/possessive tendencies, has job instability with no real goals, etc, pay attention to that! Unless you’re dating just for fun, please remember that what you ignore now will be heartache later.

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2. Don’t Assume He’s “The One”

Women have the tendency to get lose in fantasy and lose the reality of the situation–especially when good sex is involved. Make sure you’re enjoying the passion between both of you without deciding you’re “going to get married” off a few dates. When you commit to someone in your mind, before there is actual spoken commitment,  you tend to tolerate things like a girlfriend or wife would. That’s inappropriate grace for someone you barely know.

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3. Don’t Make Decisions Off Of Sex

Yes, sex is great. And while sexual compatibility is important in terms of physical connection, you cannot ignore crucial character flaws because of hot sex. To avoid that, make sure you all actually leave the house. Diversifying dates will help you know him more beyond bedroom action.

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4.. Don’t Settle For Netflix And Chill

If you’re looking for a forever partner, you need to see him in multiple scenarios to appropriately vet him for significant other potential. Go to a crowded bar, see if he gets angry. Do an “Escape The Room” challenge together to see how you work to solve problems. Rock climb together so you can see if he’s as adventurous as you are. Whatever you do, don’t sit on the couch and expect for you to really learn what you need to know about this person.

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5. Don’t Stop Dating Other People

This one can be hard for gals who like to focus on one person, but seriously, make sure you are setting up dates with other men. When we put all our eggs in one basket too soon, we tend to commit way to early to people we barely know. Dating a few men at a time keeps your balanced and gives you the power to really vet your suitors.

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6. Don’t Lose Track Of Your Hobbies

Were you a gym buff before him? Maybe you were a great chef and cooked everyday? Whatever your thing is, keeping doing that. If you make a lot of adjustments in the beginning, you’re not actually allowing yourself to see if your lifestyle matches the person you’re interested in. The goal is to have someone to join you on your journey, not have someone you have to re-arrange your whole existence in order to be with.

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7. Don’t Clear Your Schedule For Him

There’s something really sexy about not always being available. This doesn’t mean you need to play a game, but if you give the impression you’re always willing to drop everything for him, he will expect that of you if the relationship does evolve. Every healthy partnership needs boundaries and “no’s.” Set the standard early.

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8. Don’t Post Him On Social Media

Do not let the entire world into your love story while it’s fragile. Yes, take little videos of your early dating days, but save them. When you let too many people into your dating life, their opinions and feedback will clutter your decision making.

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9. Don’t Tell All Your Friends And Family About Him

Don’t go shooting off a mass texts to all your girls about your new man. Give the relationship time to bake. Otherwise, if things don’t work out, you’re gonna have a lot of people in your face like, “what happened to him,” and that’s just annoying.

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10. Don’t Assume You’re On The Same Page

Let’s dead the whole idea of “going with the flow.” If you want a relationship and that is the goal of your connection to this person, let is be known early. Some people literally just want to date for casual sex and companionship. You don’t want to find out those are his intentions when you’re already invested.