When He Doesn’t Believe In Buying A Ring - Page 9

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Every year, thousands of couples purchase engagement rings and wedding bands. Men (or women) call up their partner’s best friend, in secret, saying, “I’m ready to pop the question—can you help me pick out a ring?” All around us there are people secretly putting away a little money to buy that piece of bling for their unsuspecting partner (or maybe they’re suspecting it if they gave ultimatums). Many, many people subscribe to the concept of the ring. But…not all of them. And even those who do may not have the type of finances that allow it to be a simple, non-deliberated process. My partner and I fall into that latter category, and if you do, too, then you’ve likely had a talk or two about the all-mighty engagement ring and/or wedding bands with your partner. If your partner (like mine) doesn’t even believe in the concept of the ring, it gets trickier. Here is how the conversation goes when your partner doesn’t want to buy a ring.

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“I don’t see why a ring is important”

My boyfriend doesn’t really understand why we wear rings at all. He says we will go through the entire process of planning and having a wedding, and doing the paperwork to become legally married. But where does a piece of jewelry come into play, he asks. He feels we’re just following a tradition that we don’t understand, just because everyone else is doing it.