Should your nickname be Madame Excuses? Now, don’t get us wrong — not all love advice from your friends is good advice, and no one knows your relationships better than you. But, if you find yourself constantly making excuses for your man’s bad behavior, and accepting low romantic standards, it might be time for a spiritual makeover!
Take our quiz to find out if you’re making excuses for his lame behavior, then read our cures for your Madame Full-of-Excuses syndrome after the quiz!
1) You’ve just broken up with the biggest jerk in the world, even though you still have feelings for him. Your girlfriends call and ask you to get out of bed and have a drink with them at a nice, intimate house party. You:
a) Decide to go, but feel like no one at the party is quite like “him.”
b) Decline the offer. It takes you time to heal. Besides, ain’t nothing wrong with all-day sleeping.
c) Accept the offer, because who cares about stinky boys anyway?
2) You and your love interest have just had a bad fight. He has violated your one sacred rule for the umpteenth time, and hasn’t offered you an apology for the past week. You:
a) Talk to him and apologize, because at the end of the day, you’re usually the one that causes him to act up.
b) Never call him, or even speak of him to your girlfriends, ever again.
c) Call him and demand that he apologize for his misgivings, but you don’t take him back.
3) Your love interest, who seems like a first-rate guy, has promised to call you tomorrow. It is almost two weeks later, and he has just now sent you a brief text, so you:
a) Ignore the text and give up on love in order to save yourself this kind of trifling headache.
b) Understand that he’s been busy at work, so you savor the text and welcome him in.
c) Cuss him out.
d) Interrogate him as to why he hasn’t contacted you in a while.
4) As a married woman, the best way to describe your partnership philosophy would be:
a) I love my partner without condition. Even if my partner cheats once in a while, my commitment vows hold more weight than his weaknesses.
b) I do not believe in partnering—just dating. Love hurts too much.
c) I love my partner, with a few conditions, e.g.: “don’t use me & don’t abuse me!”
5) It’s been several years since you and “the one” have known each other, but you seem to want things that he doesn’t: for example, marriage, kids, a family, a suburban life, travel, vacations together, or maybe even just joining a couples weight loss program. When you realize just how opposed your views are from his, you:
a) Feel stuck and cry for days, hoping one day your love interest will feel sorry for you.
b) Smooth the tension, and think about ways to like what ‘your darling’ likes.
c) Get rid of this person. After all, how can this person be “the one” if you two never agree on any one thing?
d) Encourage your love interest to compromise, or else you’ll cut your losses and walk away.
Congratulations! Now that you’ve taken the quiz, score yourself…
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For question 1:
Give yourself 5 points if you chose a.
Give yourself 10 points if you chose b.
Give yourself 2 points if you chose c.
For question 2:
Give yourself 10 points if you chose a.
Give yourself 2 points if you chose b.
Give yourself 5 points if you chose c.
For question 3:
Give yourself 2 points if you chose a.
Give yourself 10 points if you chose b.
Give yourself 2 points if you chose c.
Give yourself 5 points if you chose d.
For question 4:
Give yourself 10 points if you chose a.
Give yourself 2 points if you chose b.
Give yourself 5 points if you chose c.
For question 5:
Give yourself 10 points if you chose a.
Give yourself 10 points if you chose b.
Give yourself 2 points if you chose c.
Give yourself 5 points if you chose d.
One more step left! Now that you’ve scored your quiz, see what your score says about you…
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YOUR QUIZ RESULTS
31- 50 points – If you fall within this range, we must break the news to you. You’re a ‘Madame Excuses.’ Whenever your love interest acts the fool, you pretend it didn’t happen, and perhaps, keep one too many rose-colored glasses in your Gucci drawer. Consider writing down how you feel about yourself in the best of situations with your partner, and how you feel in the worst of situations. If the worst situations aren’t ones that you know deep down can be excused, then please, stop the excuses! Love yourself and let go of anyone who’s weighing you down.
20-30 points – If you fall within this range, we’ll just call you a ‘Madame Balanced.’ You have learned some useful approaches to relationships that can help you survive the wild terrain of love. Continue to challenge yourself to be honest, and to accept the best standards of love for yourself and your partner.
10-19 points – In this range, you’re certainly not a Madame Excuses, but you’re very much a Madame Cynical! Yes, love sucks sometimes, but not all the time—so loosen up. Perhaps you’ve been in hurt in the past, but every day is a new opportunity for life. Love the fact that you’re alive, and that there’s still an infinite amount of love for you to experience, both inside and outside of yourself.
