Why You May Break Up Once With Your Life Partner
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Generally speaking, I think that getting back together with someone isn’t a great idea. We will all attempt it several times in our lives, and most of those times, it won’t go well. Typically, you’ll find that nobody has really changed—not in the fundamental ways necessary to make the relationship work. Usually, you’ll find that everyone can only be on their best behavior for so long, until those old bad habits come creeping back up. And that’s because, usually when a couple breaks up, it’s because they just weren’t right for each other. Yup—most times, when a couple gets back together, it won’t work out…except for that one time when it does. You see, there is one other reason some couples break up: it is that finding the right person can come with a lot of overwhelming feelings that can be scary to process and adjust to. Here is why you may break up once with the person you’ll spend your life with.
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It doesn’t resemble love (to you)
Sadly enough, you may not even realize that you have very romantic feelings for this person. In the past, you may have associated “love” with feeling anxious, nervous, sad, angry, and uncomfortable. You were with the wrong people, but you’ve come to associate those feelings with “romance.” So, if you feel, oh, I don’t know—happy, safe, and calm with this man, you may think, “Well, there’s just no passion here.”
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The feeling frightens you
If/when you do realize that the reason you feel completely different about this person could be because he is the person, that might terrify you. This may all happen on a subconscious level, but you may feel it’s too much to handle and bounce.
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Things may move too fast
In some cases, when you meet that special someone, you move too fast. You do recognize the great connection, and you start spending every day together. But then you think that that’s unhealthy, and you try to slow down. But slowing down feels sad and weird—so you break up.
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Or things may move too slowly
Or, if your tendency in the past—with the wrong men—has been to move too fast, and you actually move slowly with this man because it’s healthy, you may again misinterpret things. You may feel neither of you are invested, and break up.
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You may even still date other people
Your habit may be to date multiple people at once. You’ve always done that as a way of keeping your options open and not getting too attached to any one person. Out of habit, you do this still. But, this guy—the guy—may not like that, may take it the wrong way, and may decide you should go your separate ways.
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It comes on the heels of a breakup
You might meet the right guy, just on the heels of breaking up with the wrong one. For this reason alone, you may be hesitant to get involved. You think you should take some alone time. You go against your intuition—which tells you to be with this guy—and you say you should be alone for a while.
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You’ve been hurt too many times
Well this is a common one: you’ve just been hurt too many times. By the time you meet this guy, countless relationships have left you feeling fragile, dejected, and just terrified of putting your heart out there again.
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So you’re closed off
Since you have been hurt so many times, you’ve built walls. You are guarded. You don’t share much personal information with this guy or show your more vulnerable sides.
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He responds to your standoff nature
He responds to your standoff nature by behaving the same way. If you aren’t going to be vulnerable, then neither is he. You both get caught up in playing this game of being the coolest, most guarded one.
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Things lose momentum
If you’re both being stand offish in order to protect yourselves, then this thing will lose momentum. A relationship can’t really go anywhere if both people are trying their hardest not to be vulnerable. So, you may feel that things plateau, and that you should just break up.
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He may be at that learning age
Depending on how old this man is, he may be just around that age of learning what he wants in a partner and how to be a good partner. I would say late twenties or early thirties is when this happens for men. So if you meet a guy at age, say, 28, he may still have some old, selfish habits. So you dump him. But then, he realizes around age 30 or 32 the errors of his ways and can actually fix them.
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You think you’re cool with being single
Like any time there’s been trouble in paradise, you’ve just asked yourself the question, “Well, would I be alright on my own?” And, sure—you’re independent and strong. So you leave the relationship because you’ll be “fine” alone.
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You realize, this isn’t about single or not single
Then you realize that this time, it’s not about the fact that you’ll be okay on your own. In fact, you realize that you’re not better off on your own this time. This time, it’s about being with the right person. You don’t have to be okay on your own anymore.
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Breaking up shows you what he means to you
Breaking up can actually reveal to you just how strongly you feel about someone. That’s one of the many reasons people break up, one time, with the person they go on to spend their lives with.
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It’s all more common than you know
So many of my couple friends who are now happily married broke up once. In fact that’s true of four of them—including me!
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