Relationships Are Work: But How Much Is Too Much?

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Relationships do take work, of course, but not the type of work that leaves you feeling drained, exhausted, stomped all over, and barely even resembling the person you were before the relationship started. A quality relationship should make you feel like you are rewarded in massive dividends for the work you do. The right partnership will make you feel as if every time you give a little, you get more back in return than you could have possibly dreamed of. I worry that a lot of people rely on the old adage “Relationships take work” as an excuse to stay in—to put it simply—bad relationships. They may not even realize that relationships don’t have to feel that way. Their friends and family agree that relationships take work, so they assume everyone feels as challenged and tired as they do each day in their relationships. But, they probably don’t. So, though relationships take work, how much is too much?

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Regularly misunderstanding an intention

You’re constantly having to explain yourselves to each other and regularly misinterpreting the other’s intention. For example, if you’re out with your partner and run into an old coworker whom you chat with for a second without introducing your partner, your boyfriend believes you have feelings for that coworker, and that’s why you didn’t say, “This is my boyfriend.”