Ways You Can’t Save A Man

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Every woman experiences it at sometime: falling madly in love with a broken man. Perhaps I don’t even like the term “broken” because it implies the person cannot be fixed, and that simply isn’t true. You yourself likely had times in your life when you felt broken, and through therapy, the support of your friends and family, and some important self-care, you were repaired. Men are capable of all of that, too. The issue is that going from the status of “broken” to “healed” while in a relationship is very difficult, and I might even say impossible. A relationship should consist of two whole people—of two people who already did their personal work, before they got together. So if you fall for a man who needs to heal from…divorce…addiction…childhood trauma…unfortunately, not only is it not your job to save him, trying to do so could harm you. Here are ways you cannot save a man.

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Making him go to therapy

If someone commits to therapy, shows up to every session, and does the homework between sessions, he can certainly see progress. So perhaps you try to usher your broken partner into the therapist’s office. You are on the right track, but you have to get off the track.