Why You Won't Let Yourself Orgasm

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Men are lucky in a lot of ways, including the fact that for most of them (unless they have erectile dysfunction or other conditions), having an orgasm is very easy. Not only is it easy, it’s almost impossible for them not to finish. Men spend most of sex postponing their orgasm for their partner’s benefit (well, the ones who aren’t totally selfish, at least). Women, on the other hand, have to try to speed up that big O from the second intercourse begins because they know the clock is ticking until their partner finishes. And orgasming is anything but easy for most of us. A lot of it just has to do with partners who don’t know how to please us, or who don’t try hard enough. But some women—even those with partners who are good in bed—stop themselves from having the big O. Why would a woman do that? Well, maybe if you’re one of them, you know exactly why. Here are reasons some women stop themselves from orgasming.

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He isn’t putting in the work

The most surprising instance may be this: some women who do orgasm rather easily stop themselves simply because their partner isn’t putting in the work. These women would orgasm easily in spite of their partner’s lack of effort, but why should he feel so rewarded? Why should he get such a confidence boost after offering no foreplay and then jack hammering? Nope. Some women won’t give such men the satisfaction. They’re bad in bed and shouldn’t think otherwise.